Commitment

So I don't know how it's gonna sound to you people out there (especially girls) but what I wanna ask is do girls think about having a future with their bf/gf ? I always fall in love with a girl keeping one thing in mind that I want to marry her in The future, I have been in a relationship with a girl before and she proposed me to marry her but I told her that she'd have to wait for a couple of years because I have to complete my studies and she agreed but as we progressed through our relationship we fought on useless topics such as what friends she should be with (because her friends (guy friends) texted her really pervert sounding texts and I did not like them...was I wrong to do so?? Cuz she lashed back at me saying " that's how they are "...but I did not like them sending those kind of messages to her)...second was the kind of clothes she was wearing, she deliberately wore short clothes which were revealing...and she has the freedom to wear whatever she wants obviously but I was not okay with it, maybe i hated the guys who looked at her when she wore it, maybe I thought she deliberately wore such clothes because she wanted to attract attention of guys, it was either one of these or maybe both, she is a really beautiful girl and I loved her (like I wanna marry you and get old with you kinda love) and numerous times I've fought with her on the kind of clothes she wears, in the end I reached a point where my mind was torn apart between two opinions first one being that maybe I shouldn't be as strict with her and the second one being that she does not deserve me and I got a feeling that she felt that I was controlling her freedom, no girl deserves to be with a guy who tries to control her freedom, I want her to be happy,and someone who's as free as her, she deserves someone who allows her what she wants to be, and just a note I'm not an insecure person, before she proposed me we had already broken up once, only after I accepted her proposal the second time did she tell me that she was in a relationship with me the first time to make her previous ex jealous....and sometimes she just wouldn't listen to me, once she saw a photo of me with my female friends and she told me to not spend time with them... And without any opposition I agreed to that because I put her before the world, i hoped that she did too but again I am still confused whether I was being too harsh on her or were those limitations necessary as we had already decided to spend our life together?
Please let me know what you guys think, feel free to tell me that I was wrong, because I don't wanna be an idiot ruin a Future relationship if it does happen and I don't die single

Submitted May 02, 2019 at 04:20PM

So I don't know how it's gonna sound to you people out there (especially girls) but what I wanna ask is do girls think about having a future with their bf/gf ? I always fall in love with a girl keeping one thing in mind that I want to marry her in The future, I have been in a relationship with a girl before and she proposed me to marry her but I told her that she'd have to wait for a couple of years because I have to complete my studies and she agreed but as we progressed through our relationship we fought on useless topics such as what friends she should be with (because her friends (guy friends) texted her really pervert sounding texts and I did not like them...was I wrong to do so?? Cuz she lashed back at me saying " that's how they are "...but I did not like them sending those kind of messages to her)...second was the kind of clothes she was wearing, she deliberately wore short clothes which were revealing...and she has the freedom to wear whatever she wants obviously but I was not okay with it, maybe i hated the guys who looked at her when she wore it, maybe I thought she deliberately wore such clothes because she wanted to attract attention of guys, it was either one of these or maybe both, she is a really beautiful girl and I loved her (like I wanna marry you and get old with you kinda love) and numerous times I've fought with her on the kind of clothes she wears, in the end I reached a point where my mind was torn apart between two opinions first one being that maybe I shouldn't be as strict with her and the second one being that she does not deserve me and I got a feeling that she felt that I was controlling her freedom, no girl deserves to be with a guy who tries to control her freedom, I want her to be happy,and someone who's as free as her, she deserves someone who allows her what she wants to be, and just a note I'm not an insecure person, before she proposed me we had already broken up once, only after I accepted her proposal the second time did she tell me that she was in a relationship with me the first time to make her previous ex jealous....and sometimes she just wouldn't listen to me, once she saw a photo of me with my female friends and she told me to not spend time with them... And without any opposition I agreed to that because I put her before the world, i hoped that she did too but again I am still confused whether I was being too harsh on her or were those limitations necessary as we had already decided to spend our life together?Please let me know what you guys think, feel free to tell me that I was wrong, because I don't wanna be an idiot ruin a Future relationship if it does happen and I don't die single