Exclusivity and social media deletion

Hi, this is my first time posting..here's my thought and I could really use some input. Here's a little backstory, I discovered the app " Meetme" not too long ago and I would stream on there, I don't anymore because that app is full of low life's, druggies and is just a waste of life basically so I don't do it anymore but there was a guy who would come to my streams ( he gave me his number) and even though I was skeptical of him I did message him because I was slightly intrigued.. we did meet and while I wasn't super attracted to him there was a comfort level there so we've been spending some time. He basically started love bombing me straight away, he told me he loved me within the first week of us meeting. I honestly thought he was trying to use me for some financial gain (I'm not rich, I'm a single mom lol) then I later discovered he lied about technically still being married but looked past it because I took a liking to his company and I kinda thought he was being genuine in the things he was saying as far as getting a divorce etc. And I could understand his reasoning somewhat but I started to get a feeling maybe he was just trying to find someone to shack up with incase he loses all his shit in his divorce ya know? But still I continued on spending some time with him. Since we've met, we've known each other probably 3 weeks or something and I agreed to be exclusive.. boyfriend and girlfriend but here's the thing- he has POF account ( where he goes to visit streams and stream himself plus it's technically a dating app!) and says he doesn't use it but yet he was on it just 5 days ago, he told me that! Yes, he contradicts himself regularly. I basically expressed that it would really hurt me to see him on there and I mean he says he'll " do anything for me" he " loves me" and " I'm all he needs in a woman " blah, blah. It's basically my line in the sand, I want him to delete the thing ( which he should've wanted to do on his own accord) but he's really been.. idk argumentative about it, like hello?? If you're in a relationship why should you need it? If all you want to do is " make me happy" then what's the hold up? Where's the respect? I told him he can live in his fantasy online and kick rocks. What a loser right? And the thing that gets under my skin, such a fuckboy move.. is when they try to say shit like " it's your insecurities" and just generally blame you for their obliviousness. I still feel a little down but oh well.. bottom line, is it controlling to ask someone to get rid of their dating app if you're boyfriend/ girlfriend? Lol

Submitted September 25, 2020 at 11:30PM

Hi, this is my first time posting..here's my thought and I could really use some input. Here's a little backstory, I discovered the app " Meetme" not too long ago and I would stream on there, I don't anymore because that app is full of low life's, druggies and is just a waste of life basically so I don't do it anymore but there was a guy who would come to my streams ( he gave me his number) and even though I was skeptical of him I did message him because I was slightly intrigued.. we did meet and while I wasn't super attracted to him there was a comfort level there so we've been spending some time. He basically started love bombing me straight away, he told me he loved me within the first week of us meeting. I honestly thought he was trying to use me for some financial gain (I'm not rich, I'm a single mom lol) then I later discovered he lied about technically still being married but looked past it because I took a liking to his company and I kinda thought he was being genuine in the things he was saying as far as getting a divorce etc. And I could understand his reasoning somewhat but I started to get a feeling maybe he was just trying to find someone to shack up with incase he loses all his shit in his divorce ya know? But still I continued on spending some time with him. Since we've met, we've known each other probably 3 weeks or something and I agreed to be exclusive.. boyfriend and girlfriend but here's the thing- he has POF account ( where he goes to visit streams and stream himself plus it's technically a dating app!) and says he doesn't use it but yet he was on it just 5 days ago, he told me that! Yes, he contradicts himself regularly. I basically expressed that it would really hurt me to see him on there and I mean he says he'll " do anything for me" he " loves me" and " I'm all he needs in a woman " blah, blah. It's basically my line in the sand, I want him to delete the thing ( which he should've wanted to do on his own accord) but he's really been.. idk argumentative about it, like hello?? If you're in a relationship why should you need it? If all you want to do is " make me happy" then what's the hold up? Where's the respect? I told him he can live in his fantasy online and kick rocks. What a loser right? And the thing that gets under my skin, such a fuckboy move.. is when they try to say shit like " it's your insecurities" and just generally blame you for their obliviousness. I still feel a little down but oh well.. bottom line, is it controlling to ask someone to get rid of their dating app if you're boyfriend/ girlfriend? Lol