Should I Try or Leave Him Alone?

Hi, so basically I’ve known his guy for about five years now, and we’ve been on and off friends. I’ve always known that he liked me, but he knew I would date other people and we have never been exclusive. We really were just good friends, but then we’d stop talking for a while for one reason or another. So basically, we were friends again about two years ago or so, and I think he got super embarrassed about some things and no longer wanted to talk. Well I also didn’t reach out because I didn’t know what to say (I could tell at this point that he was in love/infatuated with me, and I didn’t feel the same so I thought it’d be best to let it be). Well then, I fell head over heels with a guy and got married. I am now divorced after less than a year being married. And I never reached out to the first guy and haven’t yet, but I started thinking about him A LOT when I was married (which I feel horrible about, but we got divorced for different reasons. Just basically not knowing each other enough from the beginning). And now even though I’m divorced and have my own place and everything, I’m still scared to reach out to him. I’m pretty sure he hates me, and a part of me is wondering if maybe we are meant to be, and that maybe I actually do love him, but it’s also been so long that I’m scared it won’t work out and then I’ll end up hurting him even more. Idk, what do you guys think? Also, what kind of gesture should I make? He’s a romantic guy so I was thinking a hand written note left on his car to ask him on a date, but if he does hate me he might think that’s weird and he would prefer a text message that he can ignore. Idk guys, what do you think? Is it worth trying or should I let the guy move on forget about me?



Submitted June 28, 2019 at 11:17PM

Hi, so basically I’ve known his guy for about five years now, and we’ve been on and off friends. I’ve always known that he liked me, but he knew I would date other people and we have never been exclusive. We really were just good friends, but then we’d stop talking for a while for one reason or another. So basically, we were friends again about two years ago or so, and I think he got super embarrassed about some things and no longer wanted to talk. Well I also didn’t reach out because I didn’t know what to say (I could tell at this point that he was in love/infatuated with me, and I didn’t feel the same so I thought it’d be best to let it be). Well then, I fell head over heels with a guy and got married. I am now divorced after less than a year being married. And I never reached out to the first guy and haven’t yet, but I started thinking about him A LOT when I was married (which I feel horrible about, but we got divorced for different reasons. Just basically not knowing each other enough from the beginning). And now even though I’m divorced and have my own place and everything, I’m still scared to reach out to him. I’m pretty sure he hates me, and a part of me is wondering if maybe we are meant to be, and that maybe I actually do love him, but it’s also been so long that I’m scared it won’t work out and then I’ll end up hurting him even more. Idk, what do you guys think? Also, what kind of gesture should I make? He’s a romantic guy so I was thinking a hand written note left on his car to ask him on a date, but if he does hate me he might think that’s weird and he would prefer a text message that he can ignore. Idk guys, what do you think? Is it worth trying or should I let the guy move on forget about me?
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