My [23F] extremely sheltered SIL [23F] is moving in with my wife [24F] and me.

TL;DR: My sister in law has no idea how to do basic life skills (laundry, cooking, etc) because of her sheltered life and now she is moving in with me and my wife.

My SIL and MIL live together in Massachusetts, however their house got foreclosed so they have to move out on Wednesday. I absolutely love my MIL and SIL and we all get along great. My MIL is going to go live with another family member near her current town. My SIL is coming down to Alabama (1200+ miles away from Massachusetts) to live with my wife and me which I have no problem with. My doors are completely open to her and we get along very well. My wife also gets along great with her sister as they are only a year apart so they grew up doing everything together.

My SIL [23F] is overly sheltered and mentally immature for her age. She has no driver’s license, she only works about 10 hours a week at a retail job making her state’s minimum wage, and plays video games all day. She’s very nice and respectful, it’s just as if she has the mind of a 13 year old. She has lived with my MIL her whole life. My MIL is a recovering extreme hoarder so the living conditions my MIL and SIL lived in were always unhealthy, physically and mentally. Their house doesn’t even have heat or hot water.

This will be the first time my SIL has been without my MIL for more than a few hours. My SIL won’t even take public transportation by herself (they live in Boston suburbs where public transportation is everywhere) to get to and from work. My MIL either has to drive her or take the bus to work with her. My MIL and SIL even work together. So they are literally together 24/7. I’m extremely surprised we were even able to talk my SIL into moving down here with us since my MIL won’t be coming with her.

Overall, my SIL has had no real job and she has no real life skills. She has no idea how to do laundry or cook basic meals. She has no severe mental health problems or learning problems. She has just been so sheltered her whole life. My wife and I are also in the process of trying to have a baby (same-sex couple here), but we have absolutely no problem letting my SIL live with us during the process.

How can my wife and I help my SIL transition into the adult life? I don’t want to see her waste her life away because she has such high potential. She’s an absolutely hilarious person and awesome to be around. She could have a lot going for her if she really tried. I understand that it’s not my responsibility to take care of someone my own age but I want to help her get back on her feet and let her see that she can make something of herself.



Submitted July 07, 2019 at 12:18AM

TL;DR: My sister in law has no idea how to do basic life skills (laundry, cooking, etc) because of her sheltered life and now she is moving in with me and my wife.My SIL and MIL live together in Massachusetts, however their house got foreclosed so they have to move out on Wednesday. I absolutely love my MIL and SIL and we all get along great. My MIL is going to go live with another family member near her current town. My SIL is coming down to Alabama (1200+ miles away from Massachusetts) to live with my wife and me which I have no problem with. My doors are completely open to her and we get along very well. My wife also gets along great with her sister as they are only a year apart so they grew up doing everything together.My SIL [23F] is overly sheltered and mentally immature for her age. She has no driver’s license, she only works about 10 hours a week at a retail job making her state’s minimum wage, and plays video games all day. She’s very nice and respectful, it’s just as if she has the mind of a 13 year old. She has lived with my MIL her whole life. My MIL is a recovering extreme hoarder so the living conditions my MIL and SIL lived in were always unhealthy, physically and mentally. Their house doesn’t even have heat or hot water.This will be the first time my SIL has been without my MIL for more than a few hours. My SIL won’t even take public transportation by herself (they live in Boston suburbs where public transportation is everywhere) to get to and from work. My MIL either has to drive her or take the bus to work with her. My MIL and SIL even work together. So they are literally together 24/7. I’m extremely surprised we were even able to talk my SIL into moving down here with us since my MIL won’t be coming with her.Overall, my SIL has had no real job and she has no real life skills. She has no idea how to do laundry or cook basic meals. She has no severe mental health problems or learning problems. She has just been so sheltered her whole life. My wife and I are also in the process of trying to have a baby (same-sex couple here), but we have absolutely no problem letting my SIL live with us during the process.How can my wife and I help my SIL transition into the adult life? I don’t want to see her waste her life away because she has such high potential. She’s an absolutely hilarious person and awesome to be around. She could have a lot going for her if she really tried. I understand that it’s not my responsibility to take care of someone my own age but I want to help her get back on her feet and let her see that she can make something of herself.
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