How would I go about this due to my families ridiculous and narrow minded viewpoints?

So for some context, I live in a northern state that leans left but has some pretty conservative areas. I recently changed schools and found this girl who is awesome. She is African American and I am white, and according to my mother that’s a no no. I hate to admit this but just a few years ago my younger self would be disgusted about the idea of me dating an African American girl. But I grew up, my family hasn’t. I remember being taught from a young young age “you can be friends with black people, but you can’t date them” or “you are meant to be with your own kind and God didn’t mean for races to mix”. I talked to my mother about it and she straight up refused to even acknowledge that I liked her. She said I’d never be allowed to bring her home with me. In fact she called my grandfather, and he went on a rant about how the Democrats wants mixing to happened so white people disappear. He said I was falling for a very common trap and then proceeded to call her the n word like 6 times over the phone. I hung up in disbelief. I don’t understand the issue. This girl is beautiful, our personality’s go great together, and she seems to like actually care about me. I just feel so sad th

Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:07AM

So for some context, I live in a northern state that leans left but has some pretty conservative areas. I recently changed schools and found this girl who is awesome. She is African American and I am white, and according to my mother that’s a no no. I hate to admit this but just a few years ago my younger self would be disgusted about the idea of me dating an African American girl. But I grew up, my family hasn’t. I remember being taught from a young young age “you can be friends with black people, but you can’t date them” or “you are meant to be with your own kind and God didn’t mean for races to mix”. I talked to my mother about it and she straight up refused to even acknowledge that I liked her. She said I’d never be allowed to bring her home with me. In fact she called my grandfather, and he went on a rant about how the Democrats wants mixing to happened so white people disappear. He said I was falling for a very common trap and then proceeded to call her the n word like 6 times over the phone. I hung up in disbelief. I don’t understand the issue. This girl is beautiful, our personality’s go great together, and she seems to like actually care about me. I just feel so sad th