(25 M) getting close with (25 F) in long distance relationship

There's this [24 F] at work that I [24 M] have been getting really close with. It started off naturally just wanting to make friends but we have a lot of common so we gradually started hanging out more. Mostly it was me initiating hang outs and sitting together at lunch and messages. I wasn't doing this obsessively, maybe once every now in a while. She would always respond but I always thought she was just being nice. This started around Jan/Feb this year.

Maybe about a month ago we became a lot closer and would talk more.

The last two weeks I feel something has changed. She has started initiating messages, hang outs and seeking me out at random times when I am working. She comes to me so we can go on break together and says I'll see you at lunch or I'm going on break at 3. So naturally because she is attractive and we have a strong connection I have developed a crush.

I have noticed all the signs you would when someone might be interested, laughing at everything I say, hair twirling, asking for movies for her too watch, saying yes to everything I ask her out for, and saying she was checking out my music when I never told her too.

A few other ppl at work have noticed and its been mentioned to me that we look so cute together. Shit like that. So then I found out from some other girl that apparently my crush doesn't want to be with her bf and that her family wants her too due to cultural reasons.

My crush moved from the city she lived away from her bf for work, I think they've been together for just under 2 years. She's been away from him for maybe just over a year. She has no intentions of moving back and she's looking for work in out city. She might want to go back later on.

If she wasn't in a relationship, I would just assume she's into me. I'm not focussed on her but I do like her.

I'm not sure how to proceed or what questions to ask to test the waters and see where her mind is. Advice?

I don't ask any questions about the bf because I don't feel that's my business and I may be scared to find out the answer because I feel like I'm living a fantasy.

If anyone has any suggestions at all that would be so awesome.

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td;lr getting close with girl in long distance. I've heard she's not happy with her relationship from external sources. She always seeks me out and laughs and teases me. How do I proceed? How can I test the waters?



Submitted April 20, 2019 at 05:55AM

There's this [24 F] at work that I [24 M] have been getting really close with. It started off naturally just wanting to make friends but we have a lot of common so we gradually started hanging out more. Mostly it was me initiating hang outs and sitting together at lunch and messages. I wasn't doing this obsessively, maybe once every now in a while. She would always respond but I always thought she was just being nice. This started around Jan/Feb this year.Maybe about a month ago we became a lot closer and would talk more.The last two weeks I feel something has changed. She has started initiating messages, hang outs and seeking me out at random times when I am working. She comes to me so we can go on break together and says I'll see you at lunch or I'm going on break at 3. So naturally because she is attractive and we have a strong connection I have developed a crush.I have noticed all the signs you would when someone might be interested, laughing at everything I say, hair twirling, asking for movies for her too watch, saying yes to everything I ask her out for, and saying she was checking out my music when I never told her too.A few other ppl at work have noticed and its been mentioned to me that we look so cute together. Shit like that. So then I found out from some other girl that apparently my crush doesn't want to be with her bf and that her family wants her too due to cultural reasons.My crush moved from the city she lived away from her bf for work, I think they've been together for just under 2 years. She's been away from him for maybe just over a year. She has no intentions of moving back and she's looking for work in out city. She might want to go back later on.If she wasn't in a relationship, I would just assume she's into me. I'm not focussed on her but I do like her.I'm not sure how to proceed or what questions to ask to test the waters and see where her mind is. Advice?I don't ask any questions about the bf because I don't feel that's my business and I may be scared to find out the answer because I feel like I'm living a fantasy.If anyone has any suggestions at all that would be so awesome.​td;lr getting close with girl in long distance. I've heard she's not happy with her relationship from external sources. She always seeks me out and laughs and teases me. How do I proceed? How can I test the waters?
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