(M) What do you do, when you feel like everyone thinks your sexuality makes you a bad person?

Please note that I am only talking about sexual attraction here: romantically, I am attracted to many different things, including personality.

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I am sexually attracted to women. Specifically, their bodies. I am NOT attracted to their personalities. I am attracted to their ass, their tits, their curves, their pussies, how much pleasure they're feeling and how horny they are. Those are the things that turn me on, they're the things I focus on when I watch porn. My sexuality revolves around the female body. Often, when I'm walking around, I'll see a nice ass, and I'll think to myself "nice ass".

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This is clear objectification. This is sexualization. To be sexually attracted to the female form, and nothing else, is to only care about the body of a woman, while paying no mind to who she is: it's gross, it's creepy, it's rapey, it's perverted, it's sexist, it's misogynistic. All things, outside of porn, that celebrate the male attraction to the female body are deemed these things. There are so many articles decrying the sexualization of women in ads, in movies, in tv, in video games, in every medium there is, except porn. This sexualization is always just women being sexually appealing. Clearly, many people believe it's immoral to enjoy the female body.

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I also never see anything that promotes straight male sexuality, that shows it as a good thing, rather than as, at worst, an immoral thing that hurts people, and at best, a thing that only benefits the man. Nobody worships it. Nobody likes it. Nobody ever talks about how great it is, that straight men love tits. It seems as if there's nothing good about it.

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I do not believe my sexuality is bad, but when I think about these arguments, it makes me feel... strange. It's very hard to describe. It doesn't feel good at all, and it's absolutely impossible to get hard when I'm feeling this. I get very emotional, and tears aren't unusual. I also can't turn my thoughts to anything else. I get obsessed with it. I have spent hours reading askwomen and askmen threads concerning how men and women view male sexual attraction while feeling whatever this is. Maybe it's shame? I'm not great about identifying my emotions.

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Anyway, I have no idea how to deal with this, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one who sometimes feels like this. Any advice?

Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:00AM

Please note that I am only talking about sexual attraction here: romantically, I am attracted to many different things, including personality.​I am sexually attracted to women. Specifically, their bodies. I am NOT attracted to their personalities. I am attracted to their ass, their tits, their curves, their pussies, how much pleasure they're feeling and how horny they are. Those are the things that turn me on, they're the things I focus on when I watch porn. My sexuality revolves around the female body. Often, when I'm walking around, I'll see a nice ass, and I'll think to myself "nice ass".​This is clear objectification. This is sexualization. To be sexually attracted to the female form, and nothing else, is to only care about the body of a woman, while paying no mind to who she is: it's gross, it's creepy, it's rapey, it's perverted, it's sexist, it's misogynistic. All things, outside of porn, that celebrate the male attraction to the female body are deemed these things. There are so many articles decrying the sexualization of women in ads, in movies, in tv, in video games, in every medium there is, except porn. This sexualization is always just women being sexually appealing. Clearly, many people believe it's immoral to enjoy the female body.​I also never see anything that promotes straight male sexuality, that shows it as a good thing, rather than as, at worst, an immoral thing that hurts people, and at best, a thing that only benefits the man. Nobody worships it. Nobody likes it. Nobody ever talks about how great it is, that straight men love tits. It seems as if there's nothing good about it.​I do not believe my sexuality is bad, but when I think about these arguments, it makes me feel... strange. It's very hard to describe. It doesn't feel good at all, and it's absolutely impossible to get hard when I'm feeling this. I get very emotional, and tears aren't unusual. I also can't turn my thoughts to anything else. I get obsessed with it. I have spent hours reading askwomen and askmen threads concerning how men and women view male sexual attraction while feeling whatever this is. Maybe it's shame? I'm not great about identifying my emotions.​Anyway, I have no idea how to deal with this, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one who sometimes feels like this. Any advice?