I don't understand what I'm doing wrong with men

Every single time I attempt to get to know someone, whether it be an online or in person connection, I get ghosted.

Recently, I had met up with this guy I had matched on a dating app with. We talked for weeks about different things: art, music, movies, etc, and we had a lot in common. Then, when we decided to meet up, we had a great time together! Really, it was awesome, and I felt like we really connected. We hung out for about 6 hours, talking, laughing, and we even danced together at the bar. It felt wholesome, and different than the usual failed dates I have had.

We tried to make plans to hang out again, but he never followed through, even after telling me he was interested. We would still text a lot back and forth, and I felt like we were kind of bonding, but I figure it was one-sided, and he wasn't as into me as I was into him. I was on the dating app today and saw him on there again, so I guess he made a new account, and is still looking for something I suppose I wasn't able to give him.

I'm not understanding what I did wrong, or what I'm lacking. I'm intelligent, not ugly, have lots of passions and interests, and we had a lot in common; he is also an artist and we connected on that level. We even have a similar art style, and I really wanted to do art with him sometime, something he said he was interested in doing also. We had deep and meaningful conversations and talked a lot about serious topics. I guess he does that with anyone though, whereas I do not.

He never had the decency to tell me why he lost interest, and I can't help but feel that something is wrong with me. This keeps happening to me and it's making me sad and discouraged. I really like him, but I'm going to give up on reaching out. I suppose I'm not what he was looking for, but I wish he could tell me why.

Would it even be worth it to ask him?



Submitted October 08, 2022 at 12:11AM

Every single time I attempt to get to know someone, whether it be an online or in person connection, I get ghosted.Recently, I had met up with this guy I had matched on a dating app with. We talked for weeks about different things: art, music, movies, etc, and we had a lot in common. Then, when we decided to meet up, we had a great time together! Really, it was awesome, and I felt like we really connected. We hung out for about 6 hours, talking, laughing, and we even danced together at the bar. It felt wholesome, and different than the usual failed dates I have had.We tried to make plans to hang out again, but he never followed through, even after telling me he was interested. We would still text a lot back and forth, and I felt like we were kind of bonding, but I figure it was one-sided, and he wasn't as into me as I was into him. I was on the dating app today and saw him on there again, so I guess he made a new account, and is still looking for something I suppose I wasn't able to give him.I'm not understanding what I did wrong, or what I'm lacking. I'm intelligent, not ugly, have lots of passions and interests, and we had a lot in common; he is also an artist and we connected on that level. We even have a similar art style, and I really wanted to do art with him sometime, something he said he was interested in doing also. We had deep and meaningful conversations and talked a lot about serious topics. I guess he does that with anyone though, whereas I do not.He never had the decency to tell me why he lost interest, and I can't help but feel that something is wrong with me. This keeps happening to me and it's making me sad and discouraged. I really like him, but I'm going to give up on reaching out. I suppose I'm not what he was looking for, but I wish he could tell me why.Would it even be worth it to ask him?
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