What does she want from me?

So, right at the start of the semester I (20M) fell for this one girl (18F). I flirted and she was more or less responsive and seemed at least minimally interested (quick and long-ish responses to texts, playing with her hair a lot and so on. She'd ask me weird questions at times that I felt could hint towards her being interested as well. However, it didn't take long before I found out she had a boyfriend. At this point, I should have just called it quits, but I kept up the flirting for a while longer up to a certain point.

My breaking point with this came at a dinner party that we (and all our mutual friends) attended. I got... pretty drunk, but I swear she was avoiding me all night (moving somewhere else when I'd go and dance next to her) and overall seemed dismissive. The next day, people were jokingly saying I tried to kiss her and when I talked to her about it, she said "I wouldn't do it (not sure if this was meant as a compliment or an insult, honestly) and she wouldn't let me anyway". At that point I came back into reality and wondered what the fuck I was doing pursuing this anyway, specially since she seemed less interested than ever, with me initiating everything. At around the same time I also met another girl (18F) who seemed interested in me (which does know the first girl), so I basically stopped making any effort at initiating contact with the first girl, seeing that she seemed uninterested plus had a boyfriend anyway.

At the end of the week, I got a pretty long text with her asking me why I was avoiding her (which was surprising because she rarely initiated contact at this point specially through text) and saying that "we're supposedly friends so we can work things out". I didn't want to make things awkward by saying I was interested in her and was doing it for myself, (we hang out at a lot of the same places and have A LOT of mutual friends) so I just told her some bullshit about being busy and that was that.

Since I took that step back though, she's been more "interested" than ever, initiating conversation and just being around me a lot more. Cried from laughter at something I said which I don't even think was THAT funny. Was weirdly flirty when we spooned together at some university event (would take too long to explain, but basically the fact we ended up paired together for that was because she was sticking close to me). Hell, just this weekend she initiated conversation through text to ask me about something college related that she really could have asked anyone and that seemed fairly obvious to me.

I don't know, this whole "switch" seemed really off-character for her. During this week she's been more reserved, but still near me, almost like she's shy. She's also removed everything that indicates she has a boyfriend on Instagram. I've been more or less keeping the "distant" approach. Mostly just looking for an outside perspective on what is going on and whether there's something here.

Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:43PM

So, right at the start of the semester I (20M) fell for this one girl (18F). I flirted and she was more or less responsive and seemed at least minimally interested (quick and long-ish responses to texts, playing with her hair a lot and so on. She'd ask me weird questions at times that I felt could hint towards her being interested as well. However, it didn't take long before I found out she had a boyfriend. At this point, I should have just called it quits, but I kept up the flirting for a while longer up to a certain point.My breaking point with this came at a dinner party that we (and all our mutual friends) attended. I got... pretty drunk, but I swear she was avoiding me all night (moving somewhere else when I'd go and dance next to her) and overall seemed dismissive. The next day, people were jokingly saying I tried to kiss her and when I talked to her about it, she said "I wouldn't do it (not sure if this was meant as a compliment or an insult, honestly) and she wouldn't let me anyway". At that point I came back into reality and wondered what the fuck I was doing pursuing this anyway, specially since she seemed less interested than ever, with me initiating everything. At around the same time I also met another girl (18F) who seemed interested in me (which does know the first girl), so I basically stopped making any effort at initiating contact with the first girl, seeing that she seemed uninterested plus had a boyfriend anyway.At the end of the week, I got a pretty long text with her asking me why I was avoiding her (which was surprising because she rarely initiated contact at this point specially through text) and saying that "we're supposedly friends so we can work things out". I didn't want to make things awkward by saying I was interested in her and was doing it for myself, (we hang out at a lot of the same places and have A LOT of mutual friends) so I just told her some bullshit about being busy and that was that.Since I took that step back though, she's been more "interested" than ever, initiating conversation and just being around me a lot more. Cried from laughter at something I said which I don't even think was THAT funny. Was weirdly flirty when we spooned together at some university event (would take too long to explain, but basically the fact we ended up paired together for that was because she was sticking close to me). Hell, just this weekend she initiated conversation through text to ask me about something college related that she really could have asked anyone and that seemed fairly obvious to me.I don't know, this whole "switch" seemed really off-character for her. During this week she's been more reserved, but still near me, almost like she's shy. She's also removed everything that indicates she has a boyfriend on Instagram. I've been more or less keeping the "distant" approach. Mostly just looking for an outside perspective on what is going on and whether there's something here.