should i distance myself from this girl messing with my head?

So there's this girl i like. She goes to college with me. I usually sit near her in college classes and either VERY hot or cold with me. No in between. Like one day we could be really hitting it off and the next shed give me the cold shoulder. On the days she gives me the cold shoulder, ill try to speak to her and will give very blunt answers and i end up trying harder with her compared when shes on a hot day with me. But it pretty much gets thrown back in my face.

Now this is screwing with my head and i hate it. So much so that ive had enough of the mind games and decided to give up on her and move on. Even if she was actually interested in me (which she pretty much all but says on good days), how much it messes with my head is not worth it. I dont think shes hot or cold with me intentiionally (maybe a bad day something lol) but i dont think she intends on doing this to me but its messing with me too much

So im just not going to text her anymore and no longer sit with her in class because when im in her presence whilst she is giving me a cold shoulder, it really screws with my head. id rather be on the other side of the room on a cold day because at least im not there to feel it lol.

My question is am i doing the right thing here? Should i give up on her or try for a little longer? If i am doing the right thing, are there anyways you can suggest to get over her quicker? Or if you've also had a similar experience, what did you do and how did it turn out



Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:42PM

So there's this girl i like. She goes to college with me. I usually sit near her in college classes and either VERY hot or cold with me. No in between. Like one day we could be really hitting it off and the next shed give me the cold shoulder. On the days she gives me the cold shoulder, ill try to speak to her and will give very blunt answers and i end up trying harder with her compared when shes on a hot day with me. But it pretty much gets thrown back in my face.Now this is screwing with my head and i hate it. So much so that ive had enough of the mind games and decided to give up on her and move on. Even if she was actually interested in me (which she pretty much all but says on good days), how much it messes with my head is not worth it. I dont think shes hot or cold with me intentiionally (maybe a bad day something lol) but i dont think she intends on doing this to me but its messing with me too muchSo im just not going to text her anymore and no longer sit with her in class because when im in her presence whilst she is giving me a cold shoulder, it really screws with my head. id rather be on the other side of the room on a cold day because at least im not there to feel it lol.My question is am i doing the right thing here? Should i give up on her or try for a little longer? If i am doing the right thing, are there anyways you can suggest to get over her quicker? Or if you've also had a similar experience, what did you do and how did it turn out
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