(30F) New fling (31M) was going great, but I am wondering if it will work out...

Have been talking to a friend-of-a-friend/acquaintance of mine during quarantine and we've been getting along so well, he's been flirty and I've been flirty back. We have plans on going on our first date soon but I can't help but feel like I need to be cautious, mostly because I am enjoying his attention and conversations way too much and don't want to be let down by it all. Keep having to ask myself it its just quarantine/pandemic loneliness, or if there is something more there.

Anyhow, the thing that mostly keeps me at bay and distancing myself lately, is that he has many attractive female friends. Which would be fine I suppose, as I have many male friends in my circle too (primarily due to my field of work) but what has been a bit strange to me is some dedicated social media posts to his "female best friend" saying things like "woman crush wednesday". Other things will include him posting about another very attractive female friend of his and referring to her as "my favorite person". The guy is in his early 30's so it just seems like strange behavior from my perspective when he keeps expressing interest in me and we have conversations that flow so naturally.

Overall, he is rather introverted and says he's just been working non-stop this whole quarantine and that he has no time to "flirt with other people" because his "attention is occupied currently" - his words, not mine. I just feel like I've been way too burned too many times and am extra cautious. Can't say I'm not disappointed though, as I was really enjoying where this was going. Just wondering what your thoughts were on this and if I should still give it a chance and maybe just be good friends with him, or if I should probably just stop getting my hopes up, as my boundaries would likely not align with his regarding all these women around him constantly. I suppose from my perspective, I would never call a male friend of mine my "man crush monday", or my "favorite person" publicly on social media. I've only addressed previous boyfriends that way.



Submitted September 04, 2020 at 09:44PM

Have been talking to a friend-of-a-friend/acquaintance of mine during quarantine and we've been getting along so well, he's been flirty and I've been flirty back. We have plans on going on our first date soon but I can't help but feel like I need to be cautious, mostly because I am enjoying his attention and conversations way too much and don't want to be let down by it all. Keep having to ask myself it its just quarantine/pandemic loneliness, or if there is something more there.Anyhow, the thing that mostly keeps me at bay and distancing myself lately, is that he has many attractive female friends. Which would be fine I suppose, as I have many male friends in my circle too (primarily due to my field of work) but what has been a bit strange to me is some dedicated social media posts to his "female best friend" saying things like "woman crush wednesday". Other things will include him posting about another very attractive female friend of his and referring to her as "my favorite person". The guy is in his early 30's so it just seems like strange behavior from my perspective when he keeps expressing interest in me and we have conversations that flow so naturally.Overall, he is rather introverted and says he's just been working non-stop this whole quarantine and that he has no time to "flirt with other people" because his "attention is occupied currently" - his words, not mine. I just feel like I've been way too burned too many times and am extra cautious. Can't say I'm not disappointed though, as I was really enjoying where this was going. Just wondering what your thoughts were on this and if I should still give it a chance and maybe just be good friends with him, or if I should probably just stop getting my hopes up, as my boundaries would likely not align with his regarding all these women around him constantly. I suppose from my perspective, I would never call a male friend of mine my "man crush monday", or my "favorite person" publicly on social media. I've only addressed previous boyfriends that way.
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