Girlfriend (25) and her family do everything for me (27) and it puts a lot of pressure on her

Hi guys, I guess this post is more of me venting than anything, but I'll also take any advice I can. Gonna be a long post so please bare with me. Also apologizing for format because I'm on mobile.

My girlfriend and i met at a bad time. I've been going through a lot this past year, including a failed business with some "friends", which is a long story in and of itself. Basically got a lot of money stolen and was left without a place to live or vehicle. Anyway, her and I had such a great connection that my circumstances didn't matter to her. After dealing with the fallout of the business and trying to right their wrongs, i had no where to go because my family and I aren't close due to a pretty shitty/abusive upbringing. So, some friends offered to let me stay with them. They live way out in the boonies and it was hard to find a job out here without a vehicle, but eventually after a month or so I found one within biking distance.

This whole time, my girlfriend has been driving almost an hour to me to pick me and bringing me back to her place on the weekends because my friends are basically hermits and don't like having people over. It's been about 2 and a half months of that (including me finding a job). Her family loves me and has treated me more like family than my own family ever has. They even wanted me to stay with them and get a job out there, but my girlfriend and I thought that wasn't the best thing for our relationship.

Lately, things have been really stressful. It's becoming more apparent that my friends are only willing to let me stay under their roof and that's the extent of their help. No food, rides, anything. It sucks but I'm also my own man and need to provide for myself. I don't have many friends anymore and my girlfriend and her family are the only ones I can really vent to and talk to about things, which is a lot of pressure for her. This has been kind of detrimental to our relationship because she has a lot going on in her life too.

We are absolutely in love, and I am so grateful and appreciative for everything her and her family have done for me, and I do my best to make that clear. But as I said before, it's a lot of pressure for her because I rely on her for so much, even without trying. She is such a caring and giving and selfless person and helps without even thinking about it, but it's really driving a wedge between us.

This past weekend, her parents came to me with a proposition: they have a friend who would be willing to let me stay with him for 75 bucks a month, much much closer to where they live, and they are also willing to let me use one of their extra vehicles until spring or until I can afford my own. I'm going to jump all over this opportunity, and I think it will really turn things around for me and for my relationship. But, my girlfriend is still feeling all kinds of pressure to help me and stuff even with this opportunity being proposed.

So I guess my question is, how can I take some pressure off of her? I don't want to lose this girl, I've never had anyone like her in my life and I love her with everything I am. I just want her to be happy and to be able to put as much into our relationship as she has. Is working and keeping pushing forward all I can do for now? I told her I wouldnt be upset if she wanted to not hang out every weekend and maybe take a few weekends off of hanging out, but she still wants to see me even though it's putting so much on her. I just don't see what more I can do than keep on working towards my goals.

tl;dr girlfriend and her family have done a lot for me, it makes girlfriend feel a lot of pressure. They've offered to help even more and she wants me to take the help, I want to take the help, but I want to take this pressure off of her. How can I?

Submitted January 27, 2020 at 12:25AM

Hi guys, I guess this post is more of me venting than anything, but I'll also take any advice I can. Gonna be a long post so please bare with me. Also apologizing for format because I'm on mobile.My girlfriend and i met at a bad time. I've been going through a lot this past year, including a failed business with some "friends", which is a long story in and of itself. Basically got a lot of money stolen and was left without a place to live or vehicle. Anyway, her and I had such a great connection that my circumstances didn't matter to her. After dealing with the fallout of the business and trying to right their wrongs, i had no where to go because my family and I aren't close due to a pretty shitty/abusive upbringing. So, some friends offered to let me stay with them. They live way out in the boonies and it was hard to find a job out here without a vehicle, but eventually after a month or so I found one within biking distance.This whole time, my girlfriend has been driving almost an hour to me to pick me and bringing me back to her place on the weekends because my friends are basically hermits and don't like having people over. It's been about 2 and a half months of that (including me finding a job). Her family loves me and has treated me more like family than my own family ever has. They even wanted me to stay with them and get a job out there, but my girlfriend and I thought that wasn't the best thing for our relationship.Lately, things have been really stressful. It's becoming more apparent that my friends are only willing to let me stay under their roof and that's the extent of their help. No food, rides, anything. It sucks but I'm also my own man and need to provide for myself. I don't have many friends anymore and my girlfriend and her family are the only ones I can really vent to and talk to about things, which is a lot of pressure for her. This has been kind of detrimental to our relationship because she has a lot going on in her life too.We are absolutely in love, and I am so grateful and appreciative for everything her and her family have done for me, and I do my best to make that clear. But as I said before, it's a lot of pressure for her because I rely on her for so much, even without trying. She is such a caring and giving and selfless person and helps without even thinking about it, but it's really driving a wedge between us.This past weekend, her parents came to me with a proposition: they have a friend who would be willing to let me stay with him for 75 bucks a month, much much closer to where they live, and they are also willing to let me use one of their extra vehicles until spring or until I can afford my own. I'm going to jump all over this opportunity, and I think it will really turn things around for me and for my relationship. But, my girlfriend is still feeling all kinds of pressure to help me and stuff even with this opportunity being proposed.So I guess my question is, how can I take some pressure off of her? I don't want to lose this girl, I've never had anyone like her in my life and I love her with everything I am. I just want her to be happy and to be able to put as much into our relationship as she has. Is working and keeping pushing forward all I can do for now? I told her I wouldnt be upset if she wanted to not hang out every weekend and maybe take a few weekends off of hanging out, but she still wants to see me even though it's putting so much on her. I just don't see what more I can do than keep on working towards my goals.tl;dr girlfriend and her family have done a lot for me, it makes girlfriend feel a lot of pressure. They've offered to help even more and she wants me to take the help, I want to take the help, but I want to take this pressure off of her. How can I?