I'm [27/f] dating for the first time in 5 years and I feel like I'm matching with men out of my league. How do I deal with this?

I broke up with my partner of 5 years recently. It was an abusive relationship and I'm finally starting to feel better. It took me a while (and lots of therapy) to get better but I'm ready to get back out there and meet someone new. I've gone on a few casual dates (like, tinder dates just to get back out there) and they were fine, but I'm facing a problem:

I'm using more serious dating apps now and I think I'm matching with men way out of my league and I'm too nervous to meet them.

Listen, I'm a solid 7/10. I'm alright. A little above average but not that much. I'm Jewish and have those kinds of features. I'm bad at makeup and kind of a tomboy. I literally don't know how to walk in heels. I'm thin but I don't have a gym-perfect body.

I work as a teacher. It's fine. It's nothing impressive.

Etc, etc. I'm pretty average.

I'm matching with handsome doctors and lawyers and people who are just WAY too good for me.

I'm supposed to go on a date with a hospital physician tomorrow. And he's really attractive. I'm seriously considering cancelling.

I think the 6 pictures I chose are pretty accurate, but I'm just worried they will see me in person and realize that I'm a little shy, kinda quirky, and definitely not cool or hot enough to date a freaking doctor. Or what if the pictures aren't accurate enough and when they see me in person they will realize I'm not attractive enough? I feel like that would be such a soul crushing situation, to see them look disappointed when seeing me.

I would like to meet this guy tomorrow. But I really can't help feeling like I'm not good enough and he'll realize that as soon as we meet.

Heeeelp. What do I do?

tl;dr I matched with a doctor on a dating app and we have a date tomorrow. I feel like I'm not good enough for him.



Submitted December 17, 2019 at 12:09AM

I broke up with my partner of 5 years recently. It was an abusive relationship and I'm finally starting to feel better. It took me a while (and lots of therapy) to get better but I'm ready to get back out there and meet someone new. I've gone on a few casual dates (like, tinder dates just to get back out there) and they were fine, but I'm facing a problem:I'm using more serious dating apps now and I think I'm matching with men way out of my league and I'm too nervous to meet them.Listen, I'm a solid 7/10. I'm alright. A little above average but not that much. I'm Jewish and have those kinds of features. I'm bad at makeup and kind of a tomboy. I literally don't know how to walk in heels. I'm thin but I don't have a gym-perfect body.I work as a teacher. It's fine. It's nothing impressive.Etc, etc. I'm pretty average.I'm matching with handsome doctors and lawyers and people who are just WAY too good for me.I'm supposed to go on a date with a hospital physician tomorrow. And he's really attractive. I'm seriously considering cancelling.I think the 6 pictures I chose are pretty accurate, but I'm just worried they will see me in person and realize that I'm a little shy, kinda quirky, and definitely not cool or hot enough to date a freaking doctor. Or what if the pictures aren't accurate enough and when they see me in person they will realize I'm not attractive enough? I feel like that would be such a soul crushing situation, to see them look disappointed when seeing me.I would like to meet this guy tomorrow. But I really can't help feeling like I'm not good enough and he'll realize that as soon as we meet.Heeeelp. What do I do?tl;dr I matched with a doctor on a dating app and we have a date tomorrow. I feel like I'm not good enough for him.
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