Should I ask an old friend from highschool to go out for coffee?

So I (22 F) have this old friend from elementary/highschool (22M) who I have recently reconnected with in university. I gave him his space when I first started seeing him around a lot but every once in a while he initiated contact with me (always when drunk) and when he’s sober he seems really nervous. But last time I saw him he came running up out of nowhere and said he’d been meaning to talk to me and started asking me how I’ve been. Not long after we got interrupted bc his bus came but he said it’s ok we’ll see each other bc we see each other all the time and he kept repeating that I should come say hi next time, no matter if he’s busy or whatever. We then exchanged a hug (which I was shocked he was open to) and he introduced me to his friends quick and then they got on their bus. He was pretty drunk so I’m not sure how much of this interaction he’ll remember but it seems he only gets the courage to talk to me when he’s drunk.

In the past I suspected he had feelings possibly but never told me bc I was kind of shy before but eventually we both went on to date other people. Now we are both single at the same time for the first time in a while. And ever since we’ve been around each other this school year if he doesn’t talk to me, I keep catching his gaze on me and when I catch him he looks away. He also keeps physically bumping into me in bars and doesn’t seem to be afraid if we touch so I didn’t know what to think.

I meant to say we should catch up sometime and maybe throw in a coffee idea because I really would like to catch up with him..but I’m not sure if he’ll be open to this or not. This happened right before our Christmas break so it sucks that it’s gonna be so long before I get another chance to run into him.

I don’t have his number anymore and I only have him on Facebook. I considered shooting him a message saying something like “sorry we didn’t have time to catch up last time, but I would really like to sometime if you’re up for it? Maybe we can get coffee or something? If not I’m sure we’ll bump into each other again”

In the past we’ve never really messaged each other, and when I did when we were younger I was weird af bc you know tweens are weird in general.

Should I message him or just wait until the next time I bump into him to gauge how receptive he is? I’m scared of weirding him out and scaring him off. Is the coffee idea too forward and he might mistake it for me asking him out? Any ideas?

Submitted December 16, 2019 at 12:08AM

So I (22 F) have this old friend from elementary/highschool (22M) who I have recently reconnected with in university. I gave him his space when I first started seeing him around a lot but every once in a while he initiated contact with me (always when drunk) and when he’s sober he seems really nervous. But last time I saw him he came running up out of nowhere and said he’d been meaning to talk to me and started asking me how I’ve been. Not long after we got interrupted bc his bus came but he said it’s ok we’ll see each other bc we see each other all the time and he kept repeating that I should come say hi next time, no matter if he’s busy or whatever. We then exchanged a hug (which I was shocked he was open to) and he introduced me to his friends quick and then they got on their bus. He was pretty drunk so I’m not sure how much of this interaction he’ll remember but it seems he only gets the courage to talk to me when he’s drunk.In the past I suspected he had feelings possibly but never told me bc I was kind of shy before but eventually we both went on to date other people. Now we are both single at the same time for the first time in a while. And ever since we’ve been around each other this school year if he doesn’t talk to me, I keep catching his gaze on me and when I catch him he looks away. He also keeps physically bumping into me in bars and doesn’t seem to be afraid if we touch so I didn’t know what to think.I meant to say we should catch up sometime and maybe throw in a coffee idea because I really would like to catch up with him..but I’m not sure if he’ll be open to this or not. This happened right before our Christmas break so it sucks that it’s gonna be so long before I get another chance to run into him.I don’t have his number anymore and I only have him on Facebook. I considered shooting him a message saying something like “sorry we didn’t have time to catch up last time, but I would really like to sometime if you’re up for it? Maybe we can get coffee or something? If not I’m sure we’ll bump into each other again”In the past we’ve never really messaged each other, and when I did when we were younger I was weird af bc you know tweens are weird in general.Should I message him or just wait until the next time I bump into him to gauge how receptive he is? I’m scared of weirding him out and scaring him off. Is the coffee idea too forward and he might mistake it for me asking him out? Any ideas?