Boyfriend's friends

[29 F] so my [27 M] bf has these friends he's been close with for forever. From the start I felt like they haven't really liked me. No it's not just me saying that I have reasons. Now ever since we' started dating about 1.5 years ago I just felt like I've never been really accepted into their group. Sure I get invited to things but mostly just by extension. Now one of his friends I do have a beef with. Yes she is female but thats not the main reason. She lived with my bf for 6 months for FREE and didn't do a damn thing around his house. Didn't pick up after herself, didn't pick up after her cat etc. It pissed me off to no end that she lived there and didn't pay /do shit. Now I legit don't like her for that reason. But when I threw my boyfriend a surprise birthday party in December she didn't even have the decency to let me know she was not coming... I only found out through her friend and he didn't even directly tell me. He just happened to mention it in this group chat I am in with them. So that's another example of why I think they don't care for me. Another thing is is on my birthday in October I was having a birthday dinner. They said they would come. But last minute they all canceled. One friend basically said my birthday wasn't important enough for him so he'd rather go drinking with work buddies. The same girl that lived with my boyfriend for 6 months again didn't even bother to tell me she wouldn't be there. And another example is I'm never really included in their plans. It's the 4 of them and I just happen to be there. One last example is recently I just received job, promotion nobody even acknowledged it. But when someone else in their groups relays good news it's always good job or congratulations. I have tried to open myself to them and get to know them but they seem to have no interest in me. I have my reasons for not liking them but it's causing a rift in me and my bfs relationship. And I'm not sure how to get past this. And on top of that I don't really have friends of my own and I'm not sure how to make new friends. Any advice?

TLDR: boyfriend's friends im pretty sure don't like me and it's causing issues between us.

(P.S. Yes I'm a bit jealous but I don't want this to become an issue where my boyfriend feels like he has to choose them or me. I just want to get along with them for his sake.)



Submitted April 07, 2019 at 05:42AM

[29 F] so my [27 M] bf has these friends he's been close with for forever. From the start I felt like they haven't really liked me. No it's not just me saying that I have reasons. Now ever since we' started dating about 1.5 years ago I just felt like I've never been really accepted into their group. Sure I get invited to things but mostly just by extension. Now one of his friends I do have a beef with. Yes she is female but thats not the main reason. She lived with my bf for 6 months for FREE and didn't do a damn thing around his house. Didn't pick up after herself, didn't pick up after her cat etc. It pissed me off to no end that she lived there and didn't pay /do shit. Now I legit don't like her for that reason. But when I threw my boyfriend a surprise birthday party in December she didn't even have the decency to let me know she was not coming... I only found out through her friend and he didn't even directly tell me. He just happened to mention it in this group chat I am in with them. So that's another example of why I think they don't care for me. Another thing is is on my birthday in October I was having a birthday dinner. They said they would come. But last minute they all canceled. One friend basically said my birthday wasn't important enough for him so he'd rather go drinking with work buddies. The same girl that lived with my boyfriend for 6 months again didn't even bother to tell me she wouldn't be there. And another example is I'm never really included in their plans. It's the 4 of them and I just happen to be there. One last example is recently I just received job, promotion nobody even acknowledged it. But when someone else in their groups relays good news it's always good job or congratulations. I have tried to open myself to them and get to know them but they seem to have no interest in me. I have my reasons for not liking them but it's causing a rift in me and my bfs relationship. And I'm not sure how to get past this. And on top of that I don't really have friends of my own and I'm not sure how to make new friends. Any advice?TLDR: boyfriend's friends im pretty sure don't like me and it's causing issues between us.(P.S. Yes I'm a bit jealous but I don't want this to become an issue where my boyfriend feels like he has to choose them or me. I just want to get along with them for his sake.)
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  1. AnonymousApril 7, 2019 at 7:20 PM

    I wish u good luck :)

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  2. damaprimeraApril 7, 2019 at 8:06 PM

    No offense, but it seems pretty clear why. You simply don't care for them and they know it. And I'm guessing that you're the type who is introverted and/or picky about who you hang out with, given you don't have many friends of your own. I think these are traits that are hard to overcome unless you are willing to be more forgiving and take a look at how you might be contributing to the problem.

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  3. jets3tter094April 7, 2019 at 8:08 PM

    I don’t like some of my boyfriend’s friends either, but I keep a civil attitude with them and I don’t make my dislike for them blatantly obvious. Maybe your dislike is coming off very strong.

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