My (35m) girlfriend (30F) of 2 years is acting strange.

A little backstory; My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We've had our ups and downs as most relationships do but here lately I've been getting an uneasy feeling when we're together. We live together with 2 kids, 3 and 8 months and everything seems fine on the outside. We both suffer from anxiety and are both have medication to help, I take mine but as of a few months ago she stopped taking hers alrogether. Anytime I bring up that she looks anxious she brushes it off and blames it on work or says she doesn't notice it. She doesn't make eye contact with me much anymore and our sex life has almost disappeared entirely. If I initiate something she will but it feels as if she just does it so I will leave her alone. She's on her phone quite a bit and recently received a 2nd phone for her job (traveling nurse). I've tried to brush it off especially after she said I was being paranoid and am insecure with myself. Lately I've been feeling as though she has been talking to someone else because we don't talk about what's going on during her days like we used to. I've asked and tried to have an adult conversation but she says it's me being paranoid. She uses the phrase "what did I do now?" all the time. In our first year of dating I caught her texting an ex of hers inappropriately and she said she stopped. But she lied about it until she got caught. Since then my trust for her has been hard to maintain. I'm not the greatest looking guy but I'm not an eye sore either. I don't know how to go about handling this with her just denying everything and blaming me. It feels as if we are just friends nowadays and that hurts. Any advice from someone who has been in a similar situation?

TL;DR My (35m) girlfriend (30F) of 2 years has been acting strange and it's really effecting our relationship.

Submitted April 07, 2019 at 06:47AM

A little backstory; My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We've had our ups and downs as most relationships do but here lately I've been getting an uneasy feeling when we're together. We live together with 2 kids, 3 and 8 months and everything seems fine on the outside. We both suffer from anxiety and are both have medication to help, I take mine but as of a few months ago she stopped taking hers alrogether. Anytime I bring up that she looks anxious she brushes it off and blames it on work or says she doesn't notice it. She doesn't make eye contact with me much anymore and our sex life has almost disappeared entirely. If I initiate something she will but it feels as if she just does it so I will leave her alone. She's on her phone quite a bit and recently received a 2nd phone for her job (traveling nurse). I've tried to brush it off especially after she said I was being paranoid and am insecure with myself. Lately I've been feeling as though she has been talking to someone else because we don't talk about what's going on during her days like we used to. I've asked and tried to have an adult conversation but she says it's me being paranoid. She uses the phrase "what did I do now?" all the time. In our first year of dating I caught her texting an ex of hers inappropriately and she said she stopped. But she lied about it until she got caught. Since then my trust for her has been hard to maintain. I'm not the greatest looking guy but I'm not an eye sore either. I don't know how to go about handling this with her just denying everything and blaming me. It feels as if we are just friends nowadays and that hurts. Any advice from someone who has been in a similar situation?TL;DR My (35m) girlfriend (30F) of 2 years has been acting strange and it's really effecting our relationship.