Sex on second date - now ”not ready”

So, up until last week I had been on one date with a girl. We pretty much messaged for two weeks straight, being very active and talking alot. We went out for a coffee and had an awesome time. After that we booked a second date that was supposed to be this last Friday. She is moving places and invited me for ”moving in pizza and wine”

But last Monday (5 days prior to the date) she invited me over for a movie, very spontaneous and super late. But I said fuck it and went there.

We ended up having an amazing time with so much chemestry. Like we really enjoyed eachothers company. Cant really fake our chemistry. Like a deep relationship type feeling. Later that night we had sex and I spent the night. We kissed good bye and I went to work.

After that she was very short with me.. happy, but not at all as chatty as before. And since our actual date was coming up (Friday) I confronted her by saying ”Had a super good time last time, looking forward to seeing you on Friday.”

She responded with ”Yeah me too, but I felt that maybe we moved a bit quickly.. I am not really ready to date in that kind of way. I really enjoyed last night, but I want to take things slow. Ive rushed into things previously, and made that mistake before. (backstory: she left the father of her kid 10 months ago).

So I said I am totally cool with all that and that I really enjoy her company as it is. She responded well.

Then she asked me if we could move our Friday date since she had gotten help from a friend to move boxes and big stuff to her new apartment.

But she has still been pretty ”off” and very sporadic in messaging me, and responding since. Like I have a bad gut feeling. Especially since we went from like 100-0.

What do I do?

I really like her and think we can have something good together. My guess is I ask her to do something casual this week, very open ended. And if she responds negatively, I can confront her and ask her if she wants to meet again.

English is not my native language, sorry for spelling.



Submitted April 07, 2019 at 05:53AM

So, up until last week I had been on one date with a girl. We pretty much messaged for two weeks straight, being very active and talking alot. We went out for a coffee and had an awesome time. After that we booked a second date that was supposed to be this last Friday. She is moving places and invited me for ”moving in pizza and wine”But last Monday (5 days prior to the date) she invited me over for a movie, very spontaneous and super late. But I said fuck it and went there.We ended up having an amazing time with so much chemestry. Like we really enjoyed eachothers company. Cant really fake our chemistry. Like a deep relationship type feeling. Later that night we had sex and I spent the night. We kissed good bye and I went to work.After that she was very short with me.. happy, but not at all as chatty as before. And since our actual date was coming up (Friday) I confronted her by saying ”Had a super good time last time, looking forward to seeing you on Friday.”She responded with ”Yeah me too, but I felt that maybe we moved a bit quickly.. I am not really ready to date in that kind of way. I really enjoyed last night, but I want to take things slow. Ive rushed into things previously, and made that mistake before. (backstory: she left the father of her kid 10 months ago).So I said I am totally cool with all that and that I really enjoy her company as it is. She responded well.Then she asked me if we could move our Friday date since she had gotten help from a friend to move boxes and big stuff to her new apartment.But she has still been pretty ”off” and very sporadic in messaging me, and responding since. Like I have a bad gut feeling. Especially since we went from like 100-0.What do I do?I really like her and think we can have something good together. My guess is I ask her to do something casual this week, very open ended. And if she responds negatively, I can confront her and ask her if she wants to meet again.English is not my native language, sorry for spelling.
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