He m 25 wants me f 24 to be his Carmella. I’m fed up and confused.

Boyfriend and I planned to move in together one day, that day was supposed to be coming up sometime this or next year. Had LOTs of ups and downs especially in the first year and a half but we are pretty much past all that. I do think we love each other but then this happens and it makes me question it all but don’t know if it’s break up worthy. So.....He supposedly is about to come up on big money over growing weed(which I do not hate in itself but not an ideal job imo just for the fact it’s weed, he dabs a lot and I don’t like it because one it’s a lot of money and two makes me feel like he just keeps wanting to zone me out or something). So anyways, I am worried about him working with those stereotypical weed girls and if they smoke together(which to me seems inappropriate if in a relationship, why would you spend time getting high with someone of the opposite sex alone, same as if I went out with guys and drank I know he would be upset) And I know those girls are his type and I don’t smoke anymore, I rarely even drink now, I simply grew out of it. So from worrying about the money going to his head working with a bunch of girls that smoke weed or him making jokes about having a “soprano relationship” like Chris and Adrianna or Tony and Carmella like??? It was funny the first time but he won’t stop saying it. I try to not think about it but he keeps talking about how all this money is gonna come about and he makes those stupid jokes, but he denies wanting an open relationship which makes me think he wants to mess around with other girls but doesn’t want me messing with other guys I’m considering leaving him or just finding a side piece if I find out he does do that and maybe it’s best to keep secret? Like we both live our lives together happy but have that outside of it? What would you do, I cant tell if he’s joking but the shit I have dealt with back then to this shit he’s saying now has me very unsure and he doesn’t seem consistent on monogamy. I don’t wanna leave him after all these years but it’s harping on my mental health. And I heard men with more money have a tendency to cheat more and I know he looks at reddit/cam girls when I’m not there so it’s seems to be one thing after another with wanting outside girls but when I do I get yelled at. Not sure what route to take.

TL;DR: Makes jokes about cheating if he gets this big job, yells at me when I ask about open relationships. Confused what do do.

Submitted January 14, 2020 at 12:11AM

Boyfriend and I planned to move in together one day, that day was supposed to be coming up sometime this or next year. Had LOTs of ups and downs especially in the first year and a half but we are pretty much past all that. I do think we love each other but then this happens and it makes me question it all but don’t know if it’s break up worthy. So.....He supposedly is about to come up on big money over growing weed(which I do not hate in itself but not an ideal job imo just for the fact it’s weed, he dabs a lot and I don’t like it because one it’s a lot of money and two makes me feel like he just keeps wanting to zone me out or something). So anyways, I am worried about him working with those stereotypical weed girls and if they smoke together(which to me seems inappropriate if in a relationship, why would you spend time getting high with someone of the opposite sex alone, same as if I went out with guys and drank I know he would be upset) And I know those girls are his type and I don’t smoke anymore, I rarely even drink now, I simply grew out of it. So from worrying about the money going to his head working with a bunch of girls that smoke weed or him making jokes about having a “soprano relationship” like Chris and Adrianna or Tony and Carmella like??? It was funny the first time but he won’t stop saying it. I try to not think about it but he keeps talking about how all this money is gonna come about and he makes those stupid jokes, but he denies wanting an open relationship which makes me think he wants to mess around with other girls but doesn’t want me messing with other guys I’m considering leaving him or just finding a side piece if I find out he does do that and maybe it’s best to keep secret? Like we both live our lives together happy but have that outside of it? What would you do, I cant tell if he’s joking but the shit I have dealt with back then to this shit he’s saying now has me very unsure and he doesn’t seem consistent on monogamy. I don’t wanna leave him after all these years but it’s harping on my mental health. And I heard men with more money have a tendency to cheat more and I know he looks at reddit/cam girls when I’m not there so it’s seems to be one thing after another with wanting outside girls but when I do I get yelled at. Not sure what route to take.TL;DR: Makes jokes about cheating if he gets this big job, yells at me when I ask about open relationships. Confused what do do.