My [21M] romantic interest [21F] is still friends with her ex.

We’ve seen each other five times now, and we’ve discussed becoming exclusive. She’s great, and all the signs point toward a great relationship. Here’s the rub:

The last time I saw her, she told me she is still friends with her ex. According to her, she really liked him, they had an on-again, off-again relationship due to his unwillingness to commit, and then he broke up with her. He is a member of her tight-knit friend group. She told me that when he heard about me, he became angry and told her that he now wants a relationship with her. He has since been acting crazily, including showing up to her work unannounced and threatening suicide. She told him unambiguously that she does not want to be in a relationship with him anymore to no avail.

How should I navigate this tricky situation? What demands of her am I within my rights to make in regard to this loser?

Thanks, guys.

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:44PM

We’ve seen each other five times now, and we’ve discussed becoming exclusive. She’s great, and all the signs point toward a great relationship. Here’s the rub:The last time I saw her, she told me she is still friends with her ex. According to her, she really liked him, they had an on-again, off-again relationship due to his unwillingness to commit, and then he broke up with her. He is a member of her tight-knit friend group. She told me that when he heard about me, he became angry and told her that he now wants a relationship with her. He has since been acting crazily, including showing up to her work unannounced and threatening suicide. She told him unambiguously that she does not want to be in a relationship with him anymore to no avail.How should I navigate this tricky situation? What demands of her am I within my rights to make in regard to this loser?Thanks, guys.