First date is weeks in advance, any similar experiences?

I wasn't quite sure what sub to put this in. I've been on Reddit a lot lately reading advice posts and went back and forth about posting anything, but seeing Reddit responses is really helpful for me in regards to dating stuff.

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I matched with a guy on Hinge. We exchanged a handful of messages and it seems very promising. He's responsive, asks questions, and the conversation flows pretty naturally. We both have the same goals in dating. However, he's out of state until the end of the month. I am nervous about this falling through. He initiated the match, so that could indicate that he'll follow through, or it could mean nothing. I know I should approach OLD without stressing about this sort of thing, but I'm nervous nonetheless. My last couple of matches and dates, in hindsight, had some red flags pretty early on that we wouldn't be compatible. With that experience in mind, this match seems promising. I don't want to message him constantly because we won't meet (theoretically) for another 3-4 weeks, but I don't want to not message anything either.

EDIT: he asked to go on a date when he returns, I didn't make that clear enough.

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I guess I just wanted to share my nervousness with other people and get some perspective, stories, advice, whatever. Thank you in advance!

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 07:03PM

I wasn't quite sure what sub to put this in. I've been on Reddit a lot lately reading advice posts and went back and forth about posting anything, but seeing Reddit responses is really helpful for me in regards to dating stuff.​I matched with a guy on Hinge. We exchanged a handful of messages and it seems very promising. He's responsive, asks questions, and the conversation flows pretty naturally. We both have the same goals in dating. However, he's out of state until the end of the month. I am nervous about this falling through. He initiated the match, so that could indicate that he'll follow through, or it could mean nothing. I know I should approach OLD without stressing about this sort of thing, but I'm nervous nonetheless. My last couple of matches and dates, in hindsight, had some red flags pretty early on that we wouldn't be compatible. With that experience in mind, this match seems promising. I don't want to message him constantly because we won't meet (theoretically) for another 3-4 weeks, but I don't want to not message anything either.EDIT: he asked to go on a date when he returns, I didn't make that clear enough.​I guess I just wanted to share my nervousness with other people and get some perspective, stories, advice, whatever. Thank you in advance!