Men who relentlessly pursue women who show zero interest, who block you and just overall show signs of not wanting to be bothered by you... why do you continue to pursue something?

I used to hang around this guy, we’ll call him J, pretty much everyday a few years ago. He refused to commit even though we were doing things normal, healthy couples would do. I was unhappy but went along with it out of loneliness.

I eventually ditched J and I guess when he realized I was no longer down for the ride, he went berserk - constantly called me, messaged me, texted me, even knocked on my door a time or two unannounced. I never responded and blocked him on all social media.

Years later, he still finds ways to contact me. He doesn’t live that far away from me, and I still ignore him to this day. I don’t want to see him, don’t want to go on a date, don’t want to catch up, nothing. I blocked him on an online dating app, and a few months later, he has a new account I guess and messages me again, in a way that implies he still doesn’t get it (“hey my love [jnsert heart eyes emoji]”). He’s always had a way of getting naive women to fall for him through heart emojis and good morning texts. Dude, how many different ways does a woman have to say no without typing the words “NO” for you to stop contacting me completely? Is it ego-driven? Arrogance? Boredom? A combination of things?

Submitted May 06, 2019 at 02:32AM

I used to hang around this guy, we’ll call him J, pretty much everyday a few years ago. He refused to commit even though we were doing things normal, healthy couples would do. I was unhappy but went along with it out of loneliness.I eventually ditched J and I guess when he realized I was no longer down for the ride, he went berserk - constantly called me, messaged me, texted me, even knocked on my door a time or two unannounced. I never responded and blocked him on all social media.Years later, he still finds ways to contact me. He doesn’t live that far away from me, and I still ignore him to this day. I don’t want to see him, don’t want to go on a date, don’t want to catch up, nothing. I blocked him on an online dating app, and a few months later, he has a new account I guess and messages me again, in a way that implies he still doesn’t get it (“hey my love [jnsert heart eyes emoji]”). He’s always had a way of getting naive women to fall for him through heart emojis and good morning texts. Dude, how many different ways does a woman have to say no without typing the words “NO” for you to stop contacting me completely? Is it ego-driven? Arrogance? Boredom? A combination of things?