Should I (22M) make a move with my maybe more-than-a-friend (22F)?

Me and this girl have had an odd relationship to this point. We both go to professional school together, and we've really hit it off over the course of this year. This sort of culminated with me asking her out formally and receiving a yes, but the day before our date, she cancelled it after stating worries regarding mixing our professional lives up in a relationship. That would be fine on its own, but this is where things get a little weird.

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In the wake of this event, our relationship has changed both for the better and worse. For example, she's way less connected to me digitally. Before I would receive regular texts, snapchats, etc. from her, but they're far less frequent. But our interpersonal relationship has almost taken the form of dating. We hang out together a lot. We study at the library together, we go running together, we've cooked together, and the conversations we have are extremely personal in nature. And that's not even mentioning the flirtation.

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Since that fateful conversation when she seemed to friendzone me with "not now, but not never" type of statement, she's complimented my physique out of the blue, called me cute on more than one occasion, and we've exchanged numerous physical signs like comforting pats, playful shoves, etc. Just the other night I received what I would call a drunk text that confused me as to why she reached out.

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So from all these mixed signals I'm kind of in no man's land where I feel like we need to figure out what's going on here. A mutual friend has advised me that she believes I should make a move and go for a kiss at some point in the near future. That perhaps I jumped to something too serious before, and that this move wouldn't scare her away as it would be more casual. I'm not sure if that's the best option or not, but I like the idea that if it's reciprocated, I know that this is heading in a good direction, and if it's not, then I can move on and stop pining over this girl. Any and all advice would be welcomed and appreciated.

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TL;DR Need to figure out where me and this girl stand romantically, and wondering if going for a kiss would be the quickest/least scary way to figure it out

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 04:42PM

Me and this girl have had an odd relationship to this point. We both go to professional school together, and we've really hit it off over the course of this year. This sort of culminated with me asking her out formally and receiving a yes, but the day before our date, she cancelled it after stating worries regarding mixing our professional lives up in a relationship. That would be fine on its own, but this is where things get a little weird.​In the wake of this event, our relationship has changed both for the better and worse. For example, she's way less connected to me digitally. Before I would receive regular texts, snapchats, etc. from her, but they're far less frequent. But our interpersonal relationship has almost taken the form of dating. We hang out together a lot. We study at the library together, we go running together, we've cooked together, and the conversations we have are extremely personal in nature. And that's not even mentioning the flirtation.​Since that fateful conversation when she seemed to friendzone me with "not now, but not never" type of statement, she's complimented my physique out of the blue, called me cute on more than one occasion, and we've exchanged numerous physical signs like comforting pats, playful shoves, etc. Just the other night I received what I would call a drunk text that confused me as to why she reached out.​So from all these mixed signals I'm kind of in no man's land where I feel like we need to figure out what's going on here. A mutual friend has advised me that she believes I should make a move and go for a kiss at some point in the near future. That perhaps I jumped to something too serious before, and that this move wouldn't scare her away as it would be more casual. I'm not sure if that's the best option or not, but I like the idea that if it's reciprocated, I know that this is heading in a good direction, and if it's not, then I can move on and stop pining over this girl. Any and all advice would be welcomed and appreciated.​TL;DR Need to figure out where me and this girl stand romantically, and wondering if going for a kiss would be the quickest/least scary way to figure it out