I need to vent. Dating (or trying to date) sucks!!!

I (41F) met a guy (37M) on Bumble about 2 months ago. Separated from his wife, who is in another state. It's over, their marriage is done, and I am okay with that. We went from bumble to texting one another and our first date was phenomenal. Then things got weird and he told me that he wasn't sure he was ready to date. Fine I was cool with that. We were very comfortable with one another and opened up to one another about things that we were dealing with in our personal lives. We were friends and then came the benefits. But then he would go off the grid for a few days here and there. He said that he's not the type of person who is attached to his phone and he's trying to find himself and not get lost in the person he's with like he has in many past relationships. He came over this week and helped fix my desk and then went back home to take care of a couple things and came back for dinner later on that evening. It was awesome and things got a bit physical later on. I haven't heard from him since the day he came over and I'm very upset. I can understand a day or two , but I don't understand what goes on in someone's head when they receive a text message and just decided not to respond. Not even a text message. But I had free time yesterday and invited him over for dinner and the dick head couldn't even call me back to decline . I'm just fed up completely . I'm not sure if I'm just fed up with him or dating in general . I'm just so sick of trying to find someone who was on the same page as I am. .

Frankly, I am so sick of dating, or at least trying to date and all the bullshit that comes with it. You have people who lie, people who ghost, people who tell you what you want to hear, people who have no communication skills, and people who are just inconsiderate assholes. And yes I have contacted him within these last six days with zero response. Why I settle for anything less than I deserve, is beyond me. I'm too nice. I am too giving. And I'm too stupid apparently. I feel like this guy has taken me for granted. Or maybe he thinks I'm a fool. Or maybe I am a fool.



Submitted May 06, 2019 at 12:33AM

I (41F) met a guy (37M) on Bumble about 2 months ago. Separated from his wife, who is in another state. It's over, their marriage is done, and I am okay with that. We went from bumble to texting one another and our first date was phenomenal. Then things got weird and he told me that he wasn't sure he was ready to date. Fine I was cool with that. We were very comfortable with one another and opened up to one another about things that we were dealing with in our personal lives. We were friends and then came the benefits. But then he would go off the grid for a few days here and there. He said that he's not the type of person who is attached to his phone and he's trying to find himself and not get lost in the person he's with like he has in many past relationships. He came over this week and helped fix my desk and then went back home to take care of a couple things and came back for dinner later on that evening. It was awesome and things got a bit physical later on. I haven't heard from him since the day he came over and I'm very upset. I can understand a day or two , but I don't understand what goes on in someone's head when they receive a text message and just decided not to respond. Not even a text message. But I had free time yesterday and invited him over for dinner and the dick head couldn't even call me back to decline . I'm just fed up completely . I'm not sure if I'm just fed up with him or dating in general . I'm just so sick of trying to find someone who was on the same page as I am. .Frankly, I am so sick of dating, or at least trying to date and all the bullshit that comes with it. You have people who lie, people who ghost, people who tell you what you want to hear, people who have no communication skills, and people who are just inconsiderate assholes. And yes I have contacted him within these last six days with zero response. Why I settle for anything less than I deserve, is beyond me. I'm too nice. I am too giving. And I'm too stupid apparently. I feel like this guy has taken me for granted. Or maybe he thinks I'm a fool. Or maybe I am a fool.
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