Going on a trip to see a guy I like

Hello everyone!

So in mid july, I'm (25F) leaving Canada for 70 days to spend the summer in Europe. The goal of this trip is to join a guy I met while he did an exchange student last winter semester (end of 2018). I'm super excited to see him again and pursue what we started. I love this guy and he loves me back, but we both know that after that trip, there will be no follow up to our relationship due to distance. We talked about it, just to be sure we were on the same page and we both agree on this. It's going to be an amazing trip and painful coming back, but I think it's totally worth it. Also, we both agree that it's ok to see other people in the meantime, but that when we will be reunited, we are basically girlfriend/boyfriend.

So I started dating people! I met guys and had adventures but nothing more. Now there's this one guy that I'm starting to like very much. We have great chemistry, sex is good and I feel very comfortable with him. We have seen each other for little bit more than month now. I already said to him that I like him and he replied almost instantly that he likes me too. For me, I would like that our relationship develop into something more, but now is not the time. He is leaving in a couple of days for 8 weeks in another city and will be pretty busy so I know we wont see each other or even chat. When he comes back I'm leaving one week later for my trip. And honestly I don't want to see him just before leaving because it will revive my feelings for him and I don't want to miss him during my trip. So it's a good thing in a way that he is leaving so I don't get too attached right now.

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The thing is: do I tell the guy i recently date the real goal of my trip to Europe, knowing that when I come back I want to continue to see him? For my part, because I really care about him, I feel like I should be completely honest with him and tell him. I don't want to hide or lie about what I did in Europe and everything. Especially if our relationship gets more serious. I will take the time to properly end and get over my relationship with the guy in Europe, before seeing him again. And I'm willing to take the risk to lose him.

Or I don't say anything, just that I would like to maybe see him when I come back if he's still interested. I don't owe him anything, I don't know if he see other people or if he wanted something more with me. So maybe it's unnecessary information to share with him. I could also tell him when I come back if things are getting serious.

So that's it, I'm really curious to hear your advice! On which team are you?

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TL;DR: going on a trip to see a guy I love during summer and then never see him again. Do I tell the guy I recently started dating and potentially want something more serious with the real goal of my trip to Europe before leaving?



Submitted May 06, 2019 at 12:50AM

Hello everyone!So in mid july, I'm (25F) leaving Canada for 70 days to spend the summer in Europe. The goal of this trip is to join a guy I met while he did an exchange student last winter semester (end of 2018). I'm super excited to see him again and pursue what we started. I love this guy and he loves me back, but we both know that after that trip, there will be no follow up to our relationship due to distance. We talked about it, just to be sure we were on the same page and we both agree on this. It's going to be an amazing trip and painful coming back, but I think it's totally worth it. Also, we both agree that it's ok to see other people in the meantime, but that when we will be reunited, we are basically girlfriend/boyfriend.So I started dating people! I met guys and had adventures but nothing more. Now there's this one guy that I'm starting to like very much. We have great chemistry, sex is good and I feel very comfortable with him. We have seen each other for little bit more than month now. I already said to him that I like him and he replied almost instantly that he likes me too. For me, I would like that our relationship develop into something more, but now is not the time. He is leaving in a couple of days for 8 weeks in another city and will be pretty busy so I know we wont see each other or even chat. When he comes back I'm leaving one week later for my trip. And honestly I don't want to see him just before leaving because it will revive my feelings for him and I don't want to miss him during my trip. So it's a good thing in a way that he is leaving so I don't get too attached right now.​The thing is: do I tell the guy i recently date the real goal of my trip to Europe, knowing that when I come back I want to continue to see him? For my part, because I really care about him, I feel like I should be completely honest with him and tell him. I don't want to hide or lie about what I did in Europe and everything. Especially if our relationship gets more serious. I will take the time to properly end and get over my relationship with the guy in Europe, before seeing him again. And I'm willing to take the risk to lose him.Or I don't say anything, just that I would like to maybe see him when I come back if he's still interested. I don't owe him anything, I don't know if he see other people or if he wanted something more with me. So maybe it's unnecessary information to share with him. I could also tell him when I come back if things are getting serious.So that's it, I'm really curious to hear your advice! On which team are you?​TL;DR: going on a trip to see a guy I love during summer and then never see him again. Do I tell the guy I recently started dating and potentially want something more serious with the real goal of my trip to Europe before leaving?
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