My [27M] Partner [26F] left me to get back with her ex that she broke up with.

Hello Reddit, This is quite complex but I'll do my best to keep it short. Feel free to ask for more info if I've missed anything important. This happened 5 weeks ago.

We had been together for 9 months semi-distance (she lives 1.5hrs drive away) seeing eachother almost every weekend and it was the best time of my life. I was absolutely crazy about her and she told me she felt the same. We went to concerts and did fun things etc. as couples do. Huge chemistry and very easy connection. Met her parents a few times and she met mine, everything is amazing, how could this possibly go wrong?

One week she starts being a little more distant than usual and I ask if everything is okay (she could get down sometimes). She gives me a call and starts off with the usual stuff but then tells me that her ex had contacted her earlier in the week and she is "shocked at what has been awoken in her" it's not fair to keep seeing me and we're done, she's going to pursue this and I'm out.

I saw her on the Sunday, we were great. I received a concussion on the Monday from sport (she knew this). The call was on the Thursday, we were over. I'm at my most vulnerable and she hits me when I am down, that hurt and I would have had a hard time processing it at full mental capacity.

She had been with him for 2yrs or so and broken up for two years by this stage. She left him because she wanted a house and to be a grown up but he wasn't ready or something.

She wants to be friends etc. saying I'm amazing and she still cares but I feel really used and disposable. Like I never had a chance and she didn't want to be alone while she waited for him to grow up and come back to her. I realized I was in love with her the week before she left me and I never told her when it would have mattered.

I have unfriended, unfollowed etc. Called her a week later and basically begged for her to give me a chance to fight for her but I could tell she wasn't really listening. She started saying I never let her in my head and she never figured me out, I wasn't predictable. She had never brought this up before and was trying to tell me this is my fault? I'm the bad communicator?

I care about her so much and she's all I ever wanted. I can see she had a hard decision to make and I don't want her to be with me out of pity but for her feelings for me to evaporate so quickly as soon as he asked nicely just hurts so bad. We were in a committed, rewarding relationship and she decided she could do better...

I know she will contact me at some point in the future to try be friends or something. My question is should I meet her? I do have a lot to say and I care about her very much. I'm really not interested in anything less than what we had.

I left things on okay terms I think and have been no contact for 1 month. Thanks for reading.

TL/DR: Best girl I've dated left me without warning while things were good to get back with her ex that she dumped 2yrs ago. She wants to remain a part of my life and I am unsure.



Submitted October 06, 2019 at 12:16AM

Hello Reddit, This is quite complex but I'll do my best to keep it short. Feel free to ask for more info if I've missed anything important. This happened 5 weeks ago.We had been together for 9 months semi-distance (she lives 1.5hrs drive away) seeing eachother almost every weekend and it was the best time of my life. I was absolutely crazy about her and she told me she felt the same. We went to concerts and did fun things etc. as couples do. Huge chemistry and very easy connection. Met her parents a few times and she met mine, everything is amazing, how could this possibly go wrong?One week she starts being a little more distant than usual and I ask if everything is okay (she could get down sometimes). She gives me a call and starts off with the usual stuff but then tells me that her ex had contacted her earlier in the week and she is "shocked at what has been awoken in her" it's not fair to keep seeing me and we're done, she's going to pursue this and I'm out.I saw her on the Sunday, we were great. I received a concussion on the Monday from sport (she knew this). The call was on the Thursday, we were over. I'm at my most vulnerable and she hits me when I am down, that hurt and I would have had a hard time processing it at full mental capacity.She had been with him for 2yrs or so and broken up for two years by this stage. She left him because she wanted a house and to be a grown up but he wasn't ready or something.She wants to be friends etc. saying I'm amazing and she still cares but I feel really used and disposable. Like I never had a chance and she didn't want to be alone while she waited for him to grow up and come back to her. I realized I was in love with her the week before she left me and I never told her when it would have mattered.I have unfriended, unfollowed etc. Called her a week later and basically begged for her to give me a chance to fight for her but I could tell she wasn't really listening. She started saying I never let her in my head and she never figured me out, I wasn't predictable. She had never brought this up before and was trying to tell me this is my fault? I'm the bad communicator?I care about her so much and she's all I ever wanted. I can see she had a hard decision to make and I don't want her to be with me out of pity but for her feelings for me to evaporate so quickly as soon as he asked nicely just hurts so bad. We were in a committed, rewarding relationship and she decided she could do better...I know she will contact me at some point in the future to try be friends or something. My question is should I meet her? I do have a lot to say and I care about her very much. I'm really not interested in anything less than what we had.I left things on okay terms I think and have been no contact for 1 month. Thanks for reading.TL/DR: Best girl I've dated left me without warning while things were good to get back with her ex that she dumped 2yrs ago. She wants to remain a part of my life and I am unsure.
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