Relationship Trouble: Girlfriend Is Depressed

I'm looking for some thoughts and experiences on a relationship matter I'm going through right now. My [20M] girlfriend [20F] was diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety last summer. Everything was great, she seemed happy as can be except a few nights where she couldn't stop crying. I was able to calm her down and bring her out of that dark place she spoke about. On Sep. 7th though things took a turn for the worse. Due to one relationship issue I allow her to build up instead of talking to her about it, she flew off the page. She wanted to take a break to take a step back and cool down. About 2 weeks prior she began to not take her medication because it caused her to feel "numb inside" and she didn't like it. She didn't seem abnormal or in any way different except higher levels of stress because of some family issues and college courses.

Fast forward to today, we are broken up but still loyal to one another, meaning not seeing other people... stuff like that. We have talked about the relationship issue and she has forgiven me and whatnot, but she isn't ready to be back in a relationship yet. She said she just has a lot on her plate right now and needs time to get herself together so she can be ready to fully commit to me again. We still occasionally talk and spend time together and when we do, we don't talk about the break or relationship. We just have a nice date or take a car ride around the countryside. We don't talk about it because of her and I respect it because I love this girl to absolute death and she loves me. I can see her as my future wife.

What I'm trying to figure out is did this happen because she stopped her medication? By no means am I one to push medication on anyone. It just makes me wonder if our breakup was caused because of this. I don't want to push her to take them because it will sound like I think that she's crazy. I had to remind her to take them some days and she said, "Do you think I'll be crazy or something if I don't take my meds?" I want her to be happy and I don't want to push. I just don't know the right way to try and talk to her about it. Any advice or experiences would help tremendously.

TLDR: Girlfriend and I are broken up because of a relationship issue as well as it seems she has lost herself. She stopped taking her meds and I don't know a good way to approach her about it without seeming like I think she's crazy.



Submitted October 05, 2019 at 10:40PM

I'm looking for some thoughts and experiences on a relationship matter I'm going through right now. My [20M] girlfriend [20F] was diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety last summer. Everything was great, she seemed happy as can be except a few nights where she couldn't stop crying. I was able to calm her down and bring her out of that dark place she spoke about. On Sep. 7th though things took a turn for the worse. Due to one relationship issue I allow her to build up instead of talking to her about it, she flew off the page. She wanted to take a break to take a step back and cool down. About 2 weeks prior she began to not take her medication because it caused her to feel "numb inside" and she didn't like it. She didn't seem abnormal or in any way different except higher levels of stress because of some family issues and college courses.Fast forward to today, we are broken up but still loyal to one another, meaning not seeing other people... stuff like that. We have talked about the relationship issue and she has forgiven me and whatnot, but she isn't ready to be back in a relationship yet. She said she just has a lot on her plate right now and needs time to get herself together so she can be ready to fully commit to me again. We still occasionally talk and spend time together and when we do, we don't talk about the break or relationship. We just have a nice date or take a car ride around the countryside. We don't talk about it because of her and I respect it because I love this girl to absolute death and she loves me. I can see her as my future wife.What I'm trying to figure out is did this happen because she stopped her medication? By no means am I one to push medication on anyone. It just makes me wonder if our breakup was caused because of this. I don't want to push her to take them because it will sound like I think that she's crazy. I had to remind her to take them some days and she said, "Do you think I'll be crazy or something if I don't take my meds?" I want her to be happy and I don't want to push. I just don't know the right way to try and talk to her about it. Any advice or experiences would help tremendously.TLDR: Girlfriend and I are broken up because of a relationship issue as well as it seems she has lost herself. She stopped taking her meds and I don't know a good way to approach her about it without seeming like I think she's crazy.
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