I[18F] have a crush on a coworker[20M], but I have a boyfriend[18M]

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 2.5 years. We've always had good chemistry, and we were friends before we even got together. We hardly fight, and even if we get upset at each other, we try to talk it out. I'm very happy with my boyfriend, and I wouldn't want to hurt him in any way, nor would I want to change what we have.

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A new guy recently started working where I do, and lo and behold, I start to develop a crush on him. When I first met him, he seemed pretty nice but not the kind of guy I was drawn to. As my shift went on, we talked more and more, and developed some sort of friendship on the first day we worked together. We only worked together 3 or 4 times, but we joke around almost the whole shift, and I really like working with him. I usually only work weekends because of school, so that's really the only time I see that particular coworker. I ended up following him on social media, but we don't talk outside of work.

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I feel really guilty about how I feel because I have a boyfriend. The coworker knows about my boyfriend because I brought him up before. I also talk about my boyfriend with a mutual friend, who I also work with, so the coworker has heard about him from our conversations. My boyfriend also knows about this coworker. He doesn't know about how I feel towards him, but I tell him about what happens at work, so my boyfriend knows about his general existence. I don't want to tell my boyfriend about my little crush because I don't want to hurt him, and I'll probably get over it soon anyways. The coworker is moving to a new location after he's done training at my location, so I don't really have to worry about him after he leaves, but I don't know what to do until then.

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TL;DR: I have a crush on a new coworker, and I feel guilty about it. He's leaving soon anyways, but I don't know what to do until he does leave.

Submitted October 05, 2019 at 10:45PM

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 2.5 years. We've always had good chemistry, and we were friends before we even got together. We hardly fight, and even if we get upset at each other, we try to talk it out. I'm very happy with my boyfriend, and I wouldn't want to hurt him in any way, nor would I want to change what we have.​A new guy recently started working where I do, and lo and behold, I start to develop a crush on him. When I first met him, he seemed pretty nice but not the kind of guy I was drawn to. As my shift went on, we talked more and more, and developed some sort of friendship on the first day we worked together. We only worked together 3 or 4 times, but we joke around almost the whole shift, and I really like working with him. I usually only work weekends because of school, so that's really the only time I see that particular coworker. I ended up following him on social media, but we don't talk outside of work.​I feel really guilty about how I feel because I have a boyfriend. The coworker knows about my boyfriend because I brought him up before. I also talk about my boyfriend with a mutual friend, who I also work with, so the coworker has heard about him from our conversations. My boyfriend also knows about this coworker. He doesn't know about how I feel towards him, but I tell him about what happens at work, so my boyfriend knows about his general existence. I don't want to tell my boyfriend about my little crush because I don't want to hurt him, and I'll probably get over it soon anyways. The coworker is moving to a new location after he's done training at my location, so I don't really have to worry about him after he leaves, but I don't know what to do until then.​TL;DR: I have a crush on a new coworker, and I feel guilty about it. He's leaving soon anyways, but I don't know what to do until he does leave.