weird love tetrahedron. any advice? [M27]

Ok the tetrahedron was a joke, but a little back story. My ex and i had a child last year. she had issues during her pregnancy with depression and what not where i pleaded with her to get help and she never did. those issues continued shortly after birth with post partum psychosis where she threatened me, herself, and our son (this was on and off for about 10mo). As the year progressed so did her threats (no one takes her threats seriously enough though as she has hit me earlier this year (yea cops did nothing)). As of now she has been on medication and has calmed down due to those, but if she doesn't take them she goes right back to how she was last year. we are in "family therapy" to try to communicate and co-parent at the very least. she has said many times recently she "loves me" or "wants to be a family" or "wants to live together".

during the last year i became much closer with a wonderful girl whom I've known for a while now. she enjoys a lot of the same stuff as me and we get a long great, and i really really like her. id marry her if i had the chance to (same goes for her). on the other hand there is another girl, much older than i, whom I've become close with too. she like the other friend also like a lot of the same things as me and really digs me and im sure would be an easy yes if i were to ask her out (only issue is the 14 year age difference).

i feel almost obligated to stay with my ex for the sake of raising my kid with 2 parents, but i feel eventually that relationship will end and i will have wasted my time. a consequence of that is that the two other girls i like may not be there. I do still have feelings for my ex since we decided to have a kid together, but i also have feelings for both of the other girls too. i feel so torn and confused. im lost and not sure where to turn or what to do.

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TL;DR Ex went kinda crazy after our child's birth, threatened me multiple times, and other girls have expressed interest in me. i feel obligated to be with ex but feel id be wasting my time. im confused as to what to do.



Submitted July 02, 2019 at 12:16AM

Ok the tetrahedron was a joke, but a little back story. My ex and i had a child last year. she had issues during her pregnancy with depression and what not where i pleaded with her to get help and she never did. those issues continued shortly after birth with post partum psychosis where she threatened me, herself, and our son (this was on and off for about 10mo). As the year progressed so did her threats (no one takes her threats seriously enough though as she has hit me earlier this year (yea cops did nothing)). As of now she has been on medication and has calmed down due to those, but if she doesn't take them she goes right back to how she was last year. we are in "family therapy" to try to communicate and co-parent at the very least. she has said many times recently she "loves me" or "wants to be a family" or "wants to live together".during the last year i became much closer with a wonderful girl whom I've known for a while now. she enjoys a lot of the same stuff as me and we get a long great, and i really really like her. id marry her if i had the chance to (same goes for her). on the other hand there is another girl, much older than i, whom I've become close with too. she like the other friend also like a lot of the same things as me and really digs me and im sure would be an easy yes if i were to ask her out (only issue is the 14 year age difference).i feel almost obligated to stay with my ex for the sake of raising my kid with 2 parents, but i feel eventually that relationship will end and i will have wasted my time. a consequence of that is that the two other girls i like may not be there. I do still have feelings for my ex since we decided to have a kid together, but i also have feelings for both of the other girls too. i feel so torn and confused. im lost and not sure where to turn or what to do.​TL;DR Ex went kinda crazy after our child's birth, threatened me multiple times, and other girls have expressed interest in me. i feel obligated to be with ex but feel id be wasting my time. im confused as to what to do.
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