Unsure as to when I should ask her out and how exactly

Little background about myself- I'm an INFJ male aged 27. I've been single for about 6 years now why could be a whole story but the most prominent one being that I've usually worked long hours and consciously never thought of dating women at work. I'm not socially awkward however I'm definitely not someone who could go and start a conversation with a stranger. Once you've made me comfortable, I am pretty open and you'd most likely feel that I'm a good conversationalist so no real issues there.

I've moved to a new country recently. I'm pushing myself to do stuff that I wouldn't normally do. I've joined meet up groups and gone out with strangers for hikes and to play football. Similarly, I've gone to a couple of Bachata classes (second one was today).

There is this girl in the class that I REALLY like. I wrote like 3 paragraphs and deleted them but in short, I tried my best to talk to her and today she too seemed to make attempts to start a conversation ( in case you are wondering, the dance partners keep changing every couple minutes so there's not a lot of time to talk) it seems like she likes me enough to ask me if I'd be coming to the next class and said 'I'll see you next week' before she left.

As I said, I like this girl and I'm pretty sure I wanna ask her out. ( This might sound weird but I've never directly asked some one out in person). I've had short conversations with her. My gut says that she is gonna say 'Yes' if I do ask her out but don't wanna fuck this up if there's more time do it more organically. At the same time, I'm aware that I've gotten friend zoned few times with a similar wait and take it slow attitude.

Also, I'm not sure what exactly to say. Yeah, I don't. Here it seems like people say let's get drinks together or whatever but I don't drink. I wanna take you out doesn't sound like me for some reason.

I don't know for a fact if she is single but I'm assuming she is(Please don't laugh at me :D)



Submitted September 27, 2022 at 11:52PM

Little background about myself- I'm an INFJ male aged 27. I've been single for about 6 years now why could be a whole story but the most prominent one being that I've usually worked long hours and consciously never thought of dating women at work. I'm not socially awkward however I'm definitely not someone who could go and start a conversation with a stranger. Once you've made me comfortable, I am pretty open and you'd most likely feel that I'm a good conversationalist so no real issues there.I've moved to a new country recently. I'm pushing myself to do stuff that I wouldn't normally do. I've joined meet up groups and gone out with strangers for hikes and to play football. Similarly, I've gone to a couple of Bachata classes (second one was today).There is this girl in the class that I REALLY like. I wrote like 3 paragraphs and deleted them but in short, I tried my best to talk to her and today she too seemed to make attempts to start a conversation ( in case you are wondering, the dance partners keep changing every couple minutes so there's not a lot of time to talk) it seems like she likes me enough to ask me if I'd be coming to the next class and said 'I'll see you next week' before she left.As I said, I like this girl and I'm pretty sure I wanna ask her out. ( This might sound weird but I've never directly asked some one out in person). I've had short conversations with her. My gut says that she is gonna say 'Yes' if I do ask her out but don't wanna fuck this up if there's more time do it more organically. At the same time, I'm aware that I've gotten friend zoned few times with a similar wait and take it slow attitude.Also, I'm not sure what exactly to say. Yeah, I don't. Here it seems like people say let's get drinks together or whatever but I don't drink. I wanna take you out doesn't sound like me for some reason.I don't know for a fact if she is single but I'm assuming she is(Please don't laugh at me :D)
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