I can’t get over this guy that doesn’t like me back

I’ve liked one of my really good guy friends for a long time now and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I know he doesn’t like me and I also know that he’s not interested in starting a relationship with any girl that’s in our friend group because he enjoys our company too much to ruin it. To give some backstory, I became friends with him over these past couple of years. It wasn’t until this year that I started to really like him and before I knew it a couple of his friends and my girlfriends became this group that we all really enjoy to hang out with. Saddest part is that instead of me, he liked one of my friends for about two weeks (which none of us are supposed to know but we forced it out of one of his friends lol) and he told his friend that he decided to get over her because he likes hanging out with the group and would sacrifice his crush for it. So long story short, he wouldn’t make any moves with me no matter what I do given that we’re all about to go our separate ways for college and he likes the dynamic of the group. It just sucks because he’s a pretty flirty person in general and since I knew him the longest he always talks to me the most and makes jokes with me. I’ve told myself that I need to get over him but it’s so hard to given that I see him all the time either in school, church, or when we hang out. There’s that stupid part of me that hopes he’ll someday realize that I could be a possibility and that’ll he make a move but I know it’s not realistic. All I can really hope for is that I’ll eventually get over myself and realize he’s not worth it or just wait it out till college starts and find someone better. I just need someone to snap me out of my unrealistic fantasies



Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:52AM

I’ve liked one of my really good guy friends for a long time now and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I know he doesn’t like me and I also know that he’s not interested in starting a relationship with any girl that’s in our friend group because he enjoys our company too much to ruin it. To give some backstory, I became friends with him over these past couple of years. It wasn’t until this year that I started to really like him and before I knew it a couple of his friends and my girlfriends became this group that we all really enjoy to hang out with. Saddest part is that instead of me, he liked one of my friends for about two weeks (which none of us are supposed to know but we forced it out of one of his friends lol) and he told his friend that he decided to get over her because he likes hanging out with the group and would sacrifice his crush for it. So long story short, he wouldn’t make any moves with me no matter what I do given that we’re all about to go our separate ways for college and he likes the dynamic of the group. It just sucks because he’s a pretty flirty person in general and since I knew him the longest he always talks to me the most and makes jokes with me. I’ve told myself that I need to get over him but it’s so hard to given that I see him all the time either in school, church, or when we hang out. There’s that stupid part of me that hopes he’ll someday realize that I could be a possibility and that’ll he make a move but I know it’s not realistic. All I can really hope for is that I’ll eventually get over myself and realize he’s not worth it or just wait it out till college starts and find someone better. I just need someone to snap me out of my unrealistic fantasies
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