My close friends F17 and F18 both didnt invite me to their birtdays few days apart but they attended my birthday two months ago

I know that the title sounds stupid and unimportant, but this has really hurt me. I have been close friends with these girls for 4 years now, and I was always invited to any kinds od parties and celebration until now. In the last year, I wasnt able to be around them, we hardly saw each other because I had some personal problems and struggled with depression and anxiety, and was not able to leave my house other than for school for about 6 months. I know and understand that this has effected our friendship because the friend gruop we were in continued to be together, just without me. I also know that this is my fault and that they wanted to spend time with me but I rejected because od the reasons mentioned above. I started getting better around my birthday and decided that I will be having a small gathering in my house for my friends. The whole friend group (the 6 of them) were invited. They all showed up and we had a great time. Or atleast I thought so. 2 months passed by and one of them, lets call her Becky, threw a really fancy birthday party in an expensive restaurant because its her style. I get it an even tho I would be a bit tense in that environment I would show up for her and be there as her friend. I cant lie and say that I was happy seeing all the pics of them having a great time without me. And about the other friend, I dont even know if she had a birthday party because she didnt post any pics and I am too ashamed to ask. Anyway, I saw the both of them a week after the party and bought presents for them because I really wanted to gift them for their bdays. They both thanked and Becky said:"you shouldnt have troubled". That really hurt me and the whole situation. Am I just too sensitive? I really loved them as my friends and thought we had a close friendship for life. Should I just ignore what I felt and act like nothing has happened?

tl;dr My two close friends didnt invite me to their birthdays that are few days apart and it hurt my feelings. I dont know what to do.



Submitted May 10, 2019 at 06:29AM

I know that the title sounds stupid and unimportant, but this has really hurt me. I have been close friends with these girls for 4 years now, and I was always invited to any kinds od parties and celebration until now. In the last year, I wasnt able to be around them, we hardly saw each other because I had some personal problems and struggled with depression and anxiety, and was not able to leave my house other than for school for about 6 months. I know and understand that this has effected our friendship because the friend gruop we were in continued to be together, just without me. I also know that this is my fault and that they wanted to spend time with me but I rejected because od the reasons mentioned above. I started getting better around my birthday and decided that I will be having a small gathering in my house for my friends. The whole friend group (the 6 of them) were invited. They all showed up and we had a great time. Or atleast I thought so. 2 months passed by and one of them, lets call her Becky, threw a really fancy birthday party in an expensive restaurant because its her style. I get it an even tho I would be a bit tense in that environment I would show up for her and be there as her friend. I cant lie and say that I was happy seeing all the pics of them having a great time without me. And about the other friend, I dont even know if she had a birthday party because she didnt post any pics and I am too ashamed to ask. Anyway, I saw the both of them a week after the party and bought presents for them because I really wanted to gift them for their bdays. They both thanked and Becky said:"you shouldnt have troubled". That really hurt me and the whole situation. Am I just too sensitive? I really loved them as my friends and thought we had a close friendship for life. Should I just ignore what I felt and act like nothing has happened?tl;dr My two close friends didnt invite me to their birthdays that are few days apart and it hurt my feelings. I dont know what to do.
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