Am I (22f) immature for getting mad at my tinder date (24m)?

I don't feel like typing out the whole situation again so I'm just going to briefly explain it.

-Moved in with guy I met on tinder on march 22nd. -He wanted a relationship with me. I didn't have mutual feelings. -He asked if I could spend the night at my moms house for a day so he could bring a girl over. -I spend the night at moms house and the girl spends the night. -I move out the next day, April 29th out of anger and jealousy even though I never wanted to date him anyway. -I live with my dad now. -Me and tinder guy become friends again. -He tells me he loves me. -Tuesday night i come over his house and we have sex. -He tells me that things between the girl and him probably won't work out because she has kids. -We send flirtatious text messages. -Today before work, he picks me up on his way to go get his check. I give him a bj. - I'm moving out of my dads house saturday and he says he wants to help me move out into my new apartment. - We talk on the phone and i ask him if i can spend the night tomorrow. -He says no. I ask him why. He says "because we're not together." - I take a long pause. Then I say "you just wanted me to spend the night the other day." - He says "Brittany (the girl) is coming over tomorrow." -I hang up the phone. - He text me to calm down and suggest we talk about it. - I call back. - He says he didn't want to mention brittany because he knew it would hurt me. - He talks about how him and brittany are working on being in a relationship. - I asked him why he was still fucking me then. - He said because he still loves me and because they are not in a relationship yet. - I say I can't be involved with his conflicting feelings and I don't want him to be conflicted. - I say I'm just going to leave him alone so he can work on being in a relationship with brittany. - He comes to an agreement. - I say i guess...bye. - I hang up the phone.

Was I being immature or was he in the wrong?

The feelings or heartbreak and heartache are going to come again and I don't know how to prepare myself for it. What do I do to not let this take a toll on me when I'm already depressed about other things?

Its hard to restrict contact with your ex. Even though we never dated, how do I make sure I don't contact him ever again and how do I take the desire away.

-He owes me $70. I have to contact him tomorrow to remind him to pay me. But tomorrow, i know he's also going to be with brittany. If he doesn't give me my money by tomorrow which he said he would, what do i do?

Tl;dr: I don't know what I'm doing with my life.



Submitted May 10, 2019 at 04:47AM

I don't feel like typing out the whole situation again so I'm just going to briefly explain it.-Moved in with guy I met on tinder on march 22nd. -He wanted a relationship with me. I didn't have mutual feelings. -He asked if I could spend the night at my moms house for a day so he could bring a girl over. -I spend the night at moms house and the girl spends the night. -I move out the next day, April 29th out of anger and jealousy even though I never wanted to date him anyway. -I live with my dad now. -Me and tinder guy become friends again. -He tells me he loves me. -Tuesday night i come over his house and we have sex. -He tells me that things between the girl and him probably won't work out because she has kids. -We send flirtatious text messages. -Today before work, he picks me up on his way to go get his check. I give him a bj. - I'm moving out of my dads house saturday and he says he wants to help me move out into my new apartment. - We talk on the phone and i ask him if i can spend the night tomorrow. -He says no. I ask him why. He says "because we're not together." - I take a long pause. Then I say "you just wanted me to spend the night the other day." - He says "Brittany (the girl) is coming over tomorrow." -I hang up the phone. - He text me to calm down and suggest we talk about it. - I call back. - He says he didn't want to mention brittany because he knew it would hurt me. - He talks about how him and brittany are working on being in a relationship. - I asked him why he was still fucking me then. - He said because he still loves me and because they are not in a relationship yet. - I say I can't be involved with his conflicting feelings and I don't want him to be conflicted. - I say I'm just going to leave him alone so he can work on being in a relationship with brittany. - He comes to an agreement. - I say i guess...bye. - I hang up the phone.Was I being immature or was he in the wrong?The feelings or heartbreak and heartache are going to come again and I don't know how to prepare myself for it. What do I do to not let this take a toll on me when I'm already depressed about other things?Its hard to restrict contact with your ex. Even though we never dated, how do I make sure I don't contact him ever again and how do I take the desire away.-He owes me $70. I have to contact him tomorrow to remind him to pay me. But tomorrow, i know he's also going to be with brittany. If he doesn't give me my money by tomorrow which he said he would, what do i do?Tl;dr: I don't know what I'm doing with my life.
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