Acquaintance (22?M) seems interested in me (20F) but I am not interested in him

So to jump right into things, I (20F) met this guy D (22?M) through a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. I was originally just supposed to meet with my friend, but she texted me last minute asking if she could bring a friend with her. I said sure because I (incorrectly) assumed it would be another girl. I was wrong, it was this guy D, but it wasn't too big of a deal to me.

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The three of us hang out at a cafe for a bit and it's okay. D is nice but I don't know if I see myself really becoming friends with him.

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Skip to the next week and my friend asks if I would want to grab dinner. She also asks if D could come along for a reason that made sense but could identify us. I decided to give him another chance, see if I liked him better the second time around. Well, my friend had to back out kinda last minute and asked if I'd be okay meeting with D on my own. Now here's where I think I made a mistake: I said sure, that's fine with me.

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We eat dinner and it's okay, but I get some weird vibes. Like, the way he was looking at me seemed too.....intent to be purely friendly, if that makes sense. I ignored this because...I don't really know why I ignored it. Stupid decision I guess.

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Now, I just got back from seeing my friend. Before I left she told me D had given her something to give to me. It was a box of chocolates. I'm thinking that D is interested in me, but I do not under any circumstances feel interested in him. I've never had a situation like this one get this far and I have zero experience with dating and whatnot, so I'm really clueless as to how I should ask him what his intentions are and how I should tell him I don't reciprocate his feelings if it comes down to that.

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tl;dr after only meeting twice, I'm getting the feeling that an acquaintance likes me but I am not interested in him. he indirectly gave me a box of chocolates; how do I ask him what his intentions are?



Submitted May 10, 2019 at 03:57AM

So to jump right into things, I (20F) met this guy D (22?M) through a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. I was originally just supposed to meet with my friend, but she texted me last minute asking if she could bring a friend with her. I said sure because I (incorrectly) assumed it would be another girl. I was wrong, it was this guy D, but it wasn't too big of a deal to me.​The three of us hang out at a cafe for a bit and it's okay. D is nice but I don't know if I see myself really becoming friends with him.​Skip to the next week and my friend asks if I would want to grab dinner. She also asks if D could come along for a reason that made sense but could identify us. I decided to give him another chance, see if I liked him better the second time around. Well, my friend had to back out kinda last minute and asked if I'd be okay meeting with D on my own. Now here's where I think I made a mistake: I said sure, that's fine with me.​We eat dinner and it's okay, but I get some weird vibes. Like, the way he was looking at me seemed too.....intent to be purely friendly, if that makes sense. I ignored this because...I don't really know why I ignored it. Stupid decision I guess.​Now, I just got back from seeing my friend. Before I left she told me D had given her something to give to me. It was a box of chocolates. I'm thinking that D is interested in me, but I do not under any circumstances feel interested in him. I've never had a situation like this one get this far and I have zero experience with dating and whatnot, so I'm really clueless as to how I should ask him what his intentions are and how I should tell him I don't reciprocate his feelings if it comes down to that.​tl;dr after only meeting twice, I'm getting the feeling that an acquaintance likes me but I am not interested in him. he indirectly gave me a box of chocolates; how do I ask him what his intentions are?
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