Bf (27m) let me (27f) down, claims memory loss, doesn't go to the doctor

Together for 6 months, everything had been absolutely amazing up until this. Last week I had minor surgery and asked my bf to take me since I couldn't drive. He said he would, then said he might not have time since he had made plans with his father to watch football (I learned yesterday that they have had a poor relationship and my bf is desperate to mend it). When I told him how upset I was that he'd abandon me when I need him the most for effing sports, he first said he didn't mean it like that and ofc he would have prioritized me, but we have the entire conversation on messenger so I called him on his lie and he confessed that he wanted to seem like a less shitty bf. I made it clear that he needs to be honest with me and try to work on any issues that keeps him from being a reliable partner to me, or I'm out. He said of course. Then he said he must've blacked out due to stress, because he has no memory of me mentioning that they considered whether I'd need to be asleep for the surgery, and had he known that it was that serious he would have prioritized me. I said that if that's really the case he that he suffers from a "blackout"/memory loss he needs to talk to a doctor. It's been 5 days, and he hasn't even tried to get in touch with a doc. I know he's been busy and his work is stressful, but if he thinks he might be seriously ill he should have the incentive to get it checked out, right? (Money's not an issue) I know it's scary shit to have to face, but... I'm wondering if this about the blackout is just another lie.

Help me, how do I handle this? Do I just cut my losses at this point?

TL;DR: bf canceled plans to take me to minor surgery to go watch sports, then tried tricking me into thinking it wasn't that mad, now claims he must have suffered from memory loss but has made no attempts to contact a doctor. Please advise.

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:03AM

Together for 6 months, everything had been absolutely amazing up until this. Last week I had minor surgery and asked my bf to take me since I couldn't drive. He said he would, then said he might not have time since he had made plans with his father to watch football (I learned yesterday that they have had a poor relationship and my bf is desperate to mend it). When I told him how upset I was that he'd abandon me when I need him the most for effing sports, he first said he didn't mean it like that and ofc he would have prioritized me, but we have the entire conversation on messenger so I called him on his lie and he confessed that he wanted to seem like a less shitty bf. I made it clear that he needs to be honest with me and try to work on any issues that keeps him from being a reliable partner to me, or I'm out. He said of course. Then he said he must've blacked out due to stress, because he has no memory of me mentioning that they considered whether I'd need to be asleep for the surgery, and had he known that it was that serious he would have prioritized me. I said that if that's really the case he that he suffers from a "blackout"/memory loss he needs to talk to a doctor. It's been 5 days, and he hasn't even tried to get in touch with a doc. I know he's been busy and his work is stressful, but if he thinks he might be seriously ill he should have the incentive to get it checked out, right? (Money's not an issue) I know it's scary shit to have to face, but... I'm wondering if this about the blackout is just another lie.Help me, how do I handle this? Do I just cut my losses at this point?TL;DR: bf canceled plans to take me to minor surgery to go watch sports, then tried tricking me into thinking it wasn't that mad, now claims he must have suffered from memory loss but has made no attempts to contact a doctor. Please advise.