I (24M) feel like ive lost trust in my relationship with my GF (23)

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I feel like ive lost trust in my relationship with my girlfriend. It hasnt always been this way however, as in the beginning i trusted her with a lot. She even had an accoung on instagram i wasnt allowed to follow which was her finsta which is fine i can understand the reasoning but anyways i trusted her with it and never even thought about what it could contain. However after a whole 2 years of dating things have happened that have made me constantly worried about her and the trust between us. One thing was that she sent a pic of her butt to a gay guy to "hype" each other up. I expressed how it made me feel and she said she felt bad and wouldnt do it again and how she said it was bad. Flash forward a little later and she starts supporting her decision and says it was ok because he was gay and it was just to hype each other up. This now starts to make me worry because if she thinks something like this is ok than what else does she think is ok? Another thing happened where she posted herself in lingerie i bought for her on her finsta even tho she said it was only for me and her close friends to see. (Her finsta by the way has more than just close friends but even random strangers) now i dont feel like i can trust her with the account. Im constantly scared of what next she will post and what next she will do and i honestly trust her not to cheat but im afraid of what she considers "cheating" or not. If i try to bring this concern up with her i immediately get a "you just dont trust me" and my feelings get shut down. She constantly compares our relationship to those of her old friends whos boyfriends dont care what they post even if its borderline nudes and she feels like we should be that. But thats just not me. I love her very much but im too scared to even cancel spending time with her for friends or even to ask for nudes since i feel like im not the only one who gets them. I cant keep living like this but i really do love her please help me out with some advice and comments thanks

TLDR: girlfriend had done things that have withered my trust and now i dont feel like i can trust her. It makes me too scared to cancel doing stuff with her or ask for nudes since i feel like im not the only one who gets them or if she has time to spare she will take some. I cant keep living like this

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:35AM

Here it goesI feel like ive lost trust in my relationship with my girlfriend. It hasnt always been this way however, as in the beginning i trusted her with a lot. She even had an accoung on instagram i wasnt allowed to follow which was her finsta which is fine i can understand the reasoning but anyways i trusted her with it and never even thought about what it could contain. However after a whole 2 years of dating things have happened that have made me constantly worried about her and the trust between us. One thing was that she sent a pic of her butt to a gay guy to "hype" each other up. I expressed how it made me feel and she said she felt bad and wouldnt do it again and how she said it was bad. Flash forward a little later and she starts supporting her decision and says it was ok because he was gay and it was just to hype each other up. This now starts to make me worry because if she thinks something like this is ok than what else does she think is ok? Another thing happened where she posted herself in lingerie i bought for her on her finsta even tho she said it was only for me and her close friends to see. (Her finsta by the way has more than just close friends but even random strangers) now i dont feel like i can trust her with the account. Im constantly scared of what next she will post and what next she will do and i honestly trust her not to cheat but im afraid of what she considers "cheating" or not. If i try to bring this concern up with her i immediately get a "you just dont trust me" and my feelings get shut down. She constantly compares our relationship to those of her old friends whos boyfriends dont care what they post even if its borderline nudes and she feels like we should be that. But thats just not me. I love her very much but im too scared to even cancel spending time with her for friends or even to ask for nudes since i feel like im not the only one who gets them. I cant keep living like this but i really do love her please help me out with some advice and comments thanksTLDR: girlfriend had done things that have withered my trust and now i dont feel like i can trust her. It makes me too scared to cancel doing stuff with her or ask for nudes since i feel like im not the only one who gets them or if she has time to spare she will take some. I cant keep living like this