I'm a 23/F dating a 25/M for 2 years, unable to get rid of my insecurities or overthinking

So, we have been dating for 2 years now and this is the third year running, we're quite committed to each other. Everything was well and good, until 6 months into the relationship i find out that he was flirting with another girl who had no idea that i existed. To shine more light on this, we are now in a long distance relationship as he finished college and had to go back. We do meet once in 2-3 months though. So yeah, when i found out, i was broken. I never had insecurties upto that point. We talked it out, and he told me i matter to him and he would change. Also stressed on the fact that he didn't always flirt with her, it was about 2 or 3 times apparently 🤷‍♀️. I gave it another chance and i really saw him change. There were many, many tiny things like hiding his instagram story from me etc that i eventually found out later, and he made excuses for those and againnn i was like, ok. Those small things just built up and idk if I'm wrong to still feel insecure. I just can't get the fact out of my head, that if he did it once then he can do it again. I'm trying my best.

Today, we had an argument about something and he just straight off told me that he regrets ruining his friendship with a particular friend for a 2 year relationship. In all honesty, the way they spoke, was never just friendly to me. I asked him to keep distance then, and he did. And today, i get to hear this. He told me, for him friends and relationships are equally important. He doesn't want to lose his friends, neither does he want to lose me.

Am i wrong to still feel insecure? Am i the one overthinking for no reason?

Tl;dr: He used to flirt with others while in a relationship with me and hid his instagram stories from me (we're in 2 year long distance), got me feeling insecure. He said he would change, which he did but im unable to get rid of my insecurities. I start overthinking about every friend he has. He told me, for him friends and relationships are equally important. He doesn't want to lose his friends, neither does he want to lose me.

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:00AM

So, we have been dating for 2 years now and this is the third year running, we're quite committed to each other. Everything was well and good, until 6 months into the relationship i find out that he was flirting with another girl who had no idea that i existed. To shine more light on this, we are now in a long distance relationship as he finished college and had to go back. We do meet once in 2-3 months though. So yeah, when i found out, i was broken. I never had insecurties upto that point. We talked it out, and he told me i matter to him and he would change. Also stressed on the fact that he didn't always flirt with her, it was about 2 or 3 times apparently 🤷‍♀️. I gave it another chance and i really saw him change. There were many, many tiny things like hiding his instagram story from me etc that i eventually found out later, and he made excuses for those and againnn i was like, ok. Those small things just built up and idk if I'm wrong to still feel insecure. I just can't get the fact out of my head, that if he did it once then he can do it again. I'm trying my best.Today, we had an argument about something and he just straight off told me that he regrets ruining his friendship with a particular friend for a 2 year relationship. In all honesty, the way they spoke, was never just friendly to me. I asked him to keep distance then, and he did. And today, i get to hear this. He told me, for him friends and relationships are equally important. He doesn't want to lose his friends, neither does he want to lose me.Am i wrong to still feel insecure? Am i the one overthinking for no reason?Tl;dr: He used to flirt with others while in a relationship with me and hid his instagram stories from me (we're in 2 year long distance), got me feeling insecure. He said he would change, which he did but im unable to get rid of my insecurities. I start overthinking about every friend he has. He told me, for him friends and relationships are equally important. He doesn't want to lose his friends, neither does he want to lose me.