My (19F) boyfriends (20m) family is pretty disrespectful towards me, his mom asked me for $200

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but things with his parents have been tricky for awhile. Recently his mom asked me if she can borrow $200 which really confused me because I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year but I’ve known his parents for less time than that. I don’t understand why she is so comfortable asking me for money? I don’t even have a job myself, the money I have is from financial aid so there is no steady income.

I felt pressure to say yes because I was being guilt tripped about her other son’s birthday. I ended up saying no because I just don’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t want the issue of money in between me and his parents. Am I wrong for this? Ever since I’ve said no his parents have been avoiding me and yelling at my boyfriend for bringing me to the house.

Another thing is that my boyfriends brother (6m) can be super rude to me, for example i bought everyone dinner and this kid yells at me with so much attitude it’s unbelievable “WHERES MY FRIES, I ORDERED FRIES” like I get little kids can be rude but I just feel like this is personal. I plan on moving in the house with them soon because things with my mom get pretty ugly... now I don’t know what to do because I feel like every person in this family despises me.

TL;DR my boyfriends parents and brother can be pretty disrespectful towards me and it’s making me question whether I want to move in to the house with them



Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:50PM

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but things with his parents have been tricky for awhile. Recently his mom asked me if she can borrow $200 which really confused me because I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year but I’ve known his parents for less time than that. I don’t understand why she is so comfortable asking me for money? I don’t even have a job myself, the money I have is from financial aid so there is no steady income.I felt pressure to say yes because I was being guilt tripped about her other son’s birthday. I ended up saying no because I just don’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t want the issue of money in between me and his parents. Am I wrong for this? Ever since I’ve said no his parents have been avoiding me and yelling at my boyfriend for bringing me to the house.Another thing is that my boyfriends brother (6m) can be super rude to me, for example i bought everyone dinner and this kid yells at me with so much attitude it’s unbelievable “WHERES MY FRIES, I ORDERED FRIES” like I get little kids can be rude but I just feel like this is personal. I plan on moving in the house with them soon because things with my mom get pretty ugly... now I don’t know what to do because I feel like every person in this family despises me.TL;DR my boyfriends parents and brother can be pretty disrespectful towards me and it’s making me question whether I want to move in to the house with them
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