I (F26) am finding it difficult to let go of all the hurtful comments and coldness my boyfriend (M28) made when we started our relationship. Should I continue to stay in the relationship?

This will be a throw away because my boyboyfriend is an avid redditor. We started dating back in September and we hit a lot of obstacles. I met him and really enjoyed speaking to him, and his personality. I thought he was quirky, sweet, and intelligent. As the relationship progressed , I was openly affectionate and had no problem with showing that I liked him. He was polite and nice, but never open initially with me. Would never tell me I looked nice, wouldn't compliment much either. The first time, after we had sex, somehow weight came about. I made some joke that I would end up obese if I ate all the food that I wanted. He then told me, as i was naked that he wouldn't find me sexually attractive if I gained weight. Because I had bulimia in the past, this bothered me a lot. We spoke about it and moved on.

Then there began this sequence of off hand comments. We were walking in a park, and this thicker walked by , and he made a snide remark. Then another conversation came up some how about preferred body type. He told that I wasn't necessarily his type, that he ideally wanted someone fit. But after he got to know me it wasn't as relevant and he could take or leave me loosing weight. This hurt me again because I thought he had liked the way I looked.

During this year though he has improved and try's to be more aware of what he says to me. He told me that i had changed his way of thinking. But for some reason, it's always lingering in the back of my mind. I second guess if all his nice comments ,and reject most of them. Yesterday , I had a trigger regarding my weight and how I looked. It then caused an argument when he brought something that I had said that bothered him. I really do care for him, but I don't know where to go from here. It's something that pains me even after nearly a year. I'm not sure how to proceed. I would want this to work , but I'm having a hard time forgetting.

TL;DR: My boyfriend has made several insensitive comments about weight that has made me question continuing the relationship.

Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:26PM

This will be a throw away because my boyboyfriend is an avid redditor. We started dating back in September and we hit a lot of obstacles. I met him and really enjoyed speaking to him, and his personality. I thought he was quirky, sweet, and intelligent. As the relationship progressed , I was openly affectionate and had no problem with showing that I liked him. He was polite and nice, but never open initially with me. Would never tell me I looked nice, wouldn't compliment much either. The first time, after we had sex, somehow weight came about. I made some joke that I would end up obese if I ate all the food that I wanted. He then told me, as i was naked that he wouldn't find me sexually attractive if I gained weight. Because I had bulimia in the past, this bothered me a lot. We spoke about it and moved on.Then there began this sequence of off hand comments. We were walking in a park, and this thicker walked by , and he made a snide remark. Then another conversation came up some how about preferred body type. He told that I wasn't necessarily his type, that he ideally wanted someone fit. But after he got to know me it wasn't as relevant and he could take or leave me loosing weight. This hurt me again because I thought he had liked the way I looked.During this year though he has improved and try's to be more aware of what he says to me. He told me that i had changed his way of thinking. But for some reason, it's always lingering in the back of my mind. I second guess if all his nice comments ,and reject most of them. Yesterday , I had a trigger regarding my weight and how I looked. It then caused an argument when he brought something that I had said that bothered him. I really do care for him, but I don't know where to go from here. It's something that pains me even after nearly a year. I'm not sure how to proceed. I would want this to work , but I'm having a hard time forgetting.TL;DR: My boyfriend has made several insensitive comments about weight that has made me question continuing the relationship.