He ghosted me and reappears a year later and i never got over him

So I(23F) went to only 2 dates with this guy (25M) but we talked for like 2 months. He was super handsome but suoer narcisstic. I remember beung horribly concious of myself and him being moody and wanting attention. I would always reply fast, double text etc. I ended up distancing myself because of the encounters with him and i felt we didnt match. BUT he was so handsome i would think he is way out of my league and i would always find myself stalking his instagram. I started datung this other amazing guy after and i am still currently dating him. It has been a YEAR and i can't get over those dates. If he comments on my stories i get butterflies. He msgd me a minth or two ago saying shit like i ghosted and him and everything. (Whereas it was him) I rememeber someone telling me he could be a narcissric sociopath so o didnt care what he was saying i was just happy i was talking to him. The instant he saw i had his attention, he stopped talking. I am niw moving this country and probably never see him. He msged today saying "Missing you ;)" .A year ago i would die for this. AND SURPRISINGLY now STILLL i got happy. I can't fucking believe it. I know he is most likely playing. Do you guys think i need to just talk and end it properly... its been a year and i still feel like we have a chance. As i said i am leaving the country, i could meet him just once. But what if he just stops replying after i reply to his "missing u". Ughh i am dating but we are also breaking up soon and i never felt like this "butterflyi" . What do i do? Reply? IGNORE? I can finally get the higher ground if i choose to ignore.....

PS. I know i sound like a suoer shallow person, but a year ago this was my first dating experience EVER. And i am super insecure. I used to think for a guy so handsome to go for me was crazy. It literally felt like i was dreaming. This guy showing interest in me and saying how pretty i looked helped me greatly...But when ws met is when i realized we are too different. Whytf am i still hung up on him? 1 year later



Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:02AM

So I(23F) went to only 2 dates with this guy (25M) but we talked for like 2 months. He was super handsome but suoer narcisstic. I remember beung horribly concious of myself and him being moody and wanting attention. I would always reply fast, double text etc. I ended up distancing myself because of the encounters with him and i felt we didnt match. BUT he was so handsome i would think he is way out of my league and i would always find myself stalking his instagram. I started datung this other amazing guy after and i am still currently dating him. It has been a YEAR and i can't get over those dates. If he comments on my stories i get butterflies. He msgd me a minth or two ago saying shit like i ghosted and him and everything. (Whereas it was him) I rememeber someone telling me he could be a narcissric sociopath so o didnt care what he was saying i was just happy i was talking to him. The instant he saw i had his attention, he stopped talking. I am niw moving this country and probably never see him. He msged today saying "Missing you ;)" .A year ago i would die for this. AND SURPRISINGLY now STILLL i got happy. I can't fucking believe it. I know he is most likely playing. Do you guys think i need to just talk and end it properly... its been a year and i still feel like we have a chance. As i said i am leaving the country, i could meet him just once. But what if he just stops replying after i reply to his "missing u". Ughh i am dating but we are also breaking up soon and i never felt like this "butterflyi" . What do i do? Reply? IGNORE? I can finally get the higher ground if i choose to ignore.....PS. I know i sound like a suoer shallow person, but a year ago this was my first dating experience EVER. And i am super insecure. I used to think for a guy so handsome to go for me was crazy. It literally felt like i was dreaming. This guy showing interest in me and saying how pretty i looked helped me greatly...But when ws met is when i realized we are too different. Whytf am i still hung up on him? 1 year later
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