Gorgeous guy left after amazing one night stand quite cold/awkwardly - I feel stupid that I wasn’t nicer!

TLDR: I ruined the morning after by being super cold and shy because of my stupid insecurities. So I let this incredible guy leave without asking his phone number. I feel like I lost a huge opportunity.

We met at a bar and had great chemistry since the first second we interacted. We made each other laugh and clearly we felt extremely attracted towards each other so we decided to go to my place. I said bye to my friends and left with the guy. On the way and once at my place everything went well! I cannot believe I had awesome sex with the hottest guy and the nicest smile I’ve seen in my life.

The night was long, and filled with lust. Then we woke up and had a great time again in the early morning.

Later that morning, I woke up before him, got dressed and started to clean up my place. What an idiot! I should have been there when he woke up! I should have made coffee! I should have talked to him more! I should have asked more questions! I swear I can be charming, funny, interesting.. but instead was super cold and silent. At some point he just woke up, got dressed, said tank you and left. And I let him leave just like that. Didn’t even offer to call a taxi or showed him the way.. nothing. So the great night ended with a weird and awkward after taste.

My gut kept telling me to take him for breakfast and offer to drive him wherever. But I just froze.

Maybe I was just in shock. It was my first one night stand, and the guy was handsome to an intimidating point. In the morning I was not tipsy anymore and I and I started to feel self conscious. In normal every day life I wouldn’t even approach someone like that with naughty intentions. Even though I’m not shabby looking, I’d even say I look quite cute or even hot some days, I’d immediately play my goofiness and they just see me as the eccentric funny girl. Or so I tell myself.

But in this case he approached me and I just went along. Quirks, goofiness and all he apparently liked me. Not some tall skinny model, but me. Me? Really? Can a guy like that be attracted to me? I mean look fine I guess, but there were prettier girls than me there.

What I’ve learned from this experience: 1) Be present before, during and after. Even for a one night stand, my partner should receive all the attention they deserve. Especially when everything went so smoothly and they were so giving during sex! 2) I need to work in my self-esteem. I used to think I was confident but after this weekend, clearly I see myself under a worse light than I thought. At some point after he left I even caught myself thinking that maybe he was too drunk and did not really see me or something like that. Which still is a possibility. I don’t know, and will probably never know.

3) Even with my fuck up, being with him give me a huge confidence boost. I should be confident enough to pursue people “out of my league”. For all I know there might not even be such a thing as “out of my league”.

I would like to contact him and get another go, but impossible. I checked and he’s in none of the social media platforms. I did find some pictures of him on other sites.. and the more I see them the worse I feel. He must think I was weird. Or even worse, he’s not thinking about it at all and is probably with someone perfect looking like him now.

Submitted November 12, 2019 at 12:00AM

TLDR: I ruined the morning after by being super cold and shy because of my stupid insecurities. So I let this incredible guy leave without asking his phone number. I feel like I lost a huge opportunity.We met at a bar and had great chemistry since the first second we interacted. We made each other laugh and clearly we felt extremely attracted towards each other so we decided to go to my place. I said bye to my friends and left with the guy. On the way and once at my place everything went well! I cannot believe I had awesome sex with the hottest guy and the nicest smile I’ve seen in my life.The night was long, and filled with lust. Then we woke up and had a great time again in the early morning.Later that morning, I woke up before him, got dressed and started to clean up my place. What an idiot! I should have been there when he woke up! I should have made coffee! I should have talked to him more! I should have asked more questions! I swear I can be charming, funny, interesting.. but instead was super cold and silent. At some point he just woke up, got dressed, said tank you and left. And I let him leave just like that. Didn’t even offer to call a taxi or showed him the way.. nothing. So the great night ended with a weird and awkward after taste.My gut kept telling me to take him for breakfast and offer to drive him wherever. But I just froze.Maybe I was just in shock. It was my first one night stand, and the guy was handsome to an intimidating point. In the morning I was not tipsy anymore and I and I started to feel self conscious. In normal every day life I wouldn’t even approach someone like that with naughty intentions. Even though I’m not shabby looking, I’d even say I look quite cute or even hot some days, I’d immediately play my goofiness and they just see me as the eccentric funny girl. Or so I tell myself.But in this case he approached me and I just went along. Quirks, goofiness and all he apparently liked me. Not some tall skinny model, but me. Me? Really? Can a guy like that be attracted to me? I mean look fine I guess, but there were prettier girls than me there.What I’ve learned from this experience: 1) Be present before, during and after. Even for a one night stand, my partner should receive all the attention they deserve. Especially when everything went so smoothly and they were so giving during sex! 2) I need to work in my self-esteem. I used to think I was confident but after this weekend, clearly I see myself under a worse light than I thought. At some point after he left I even caught myself thinking that maybe he was too drunk and did not really see me or something like that. Which still is a possibility. I don’t know, and will probably never know.3) Even with my fuck up, being with him give me a huge confidence boost. I should be confident enough to pursue people “out of my league”. For all I know there might not even be such a thing as “out of my league”.I would like to contact him and get another go, but impossible. I checked and he’s in none of the social media platforms. I did find some pictures of him on other sites.. and the more I see them the worse I feel. He must think I was weird. Or even worse, he’s not thinking about it at all and is probably with someone perfect looking like him now.