I (23M) can't really tell if this person (23F) is interested or not so far

I met someone at work pretty recently and we've been getting on well. This is at work so I haven't been going out of my way to meet frequently and make it a distraction from the day to day job (I know this is important and pretty sensitive). So we've met a few times, just the two of us (including lunch and coffee). And it is at a point where we are sometimes spending more than 3-4 hours after work talking in the coffee room about things unrelated to work (multiple times), and they are asking me if I am going to department gatherings before confirming they are going. To me these are all good signs that they might be interested...

The only thing I have been quite sensitive to, is that I cannot tell if she is into it by her texting habits. I will say we text much, much less infrequently than I normally would with anyone. But I am quite happy with that given I prefer face to face interactions. But they are quite "short" and blunt by text (this could be a language thing, they are not a native English speaker and I guess texting could be uncomfortable), and slow to reply. Over the holiday season, I texted asking if they were serious about wanting to do some activity they mentioned in conversation (no mention of going with me or anything). I did not want to just invite them out of the blue. So I would bring up the topic and then ask. Still quick, but not as random. The response was pretty minimal (in keeping with habits?) and they said they did want to do it some day. As short as "yeah, some day"...

My own instinct is that they aren't going to just say "yes, let's go". I'm the one asking after all. But I'm uncertain if I should be taking a "back off" stance from the brevity in texting. It seems weird to me that two people could talk so long in person, but seem uninterested by text. I know that I am pretty sensitive to things like this (to my annoyance). Should I respond to them reply and actually ask if they want to go *with me* soon?

TLDR - Feel like I am getting mixed signals from someone and not sure if I should continue, or if I am being overly sensitive?

Submitted December 27, 2019 at 11:51PM

I met someone at work pretty recently and we've been getting on well. This is at work so I haven't been going out of my way to meet frequently and make it a distraction from the day to day job (I know this is important and pretty sensitive). So we've met a few times, just the two of us (including lunch and coffee). And it is at a point where we are sometimes spending more than 3-4 hours after work talking in the coffee room about things unrelated to work (multiple times), and they are asking me if I am going to department gatherings before confirming they are going. To me these are all good signs that they might be interested...The only thing I have been quite sensitive to, is that I cannot tell if she is into it by her texting habits. I will say we text much, much less infrequently than I normally would with anyone. But I am quite happy with that given I prefer face to face interactions. But they are quite "short" and blunt by text (this could be a language thing, they are not a native English speaker and I guess texting could be uncomfortable), and slow to reply. Over the holiday season, I texted asking if they were serious about wanting to do some activity they mentioned in conversation (no mention of going with me or anything). I did not want to just invite them out of the blue. So I would bring up the topic and then ask. Still quick, but not as random. The response was pretty minimal (in keeping with habits?) and they said they did want to do it some day. As short as "yeah, some day"...My own instinct is that they aren't going to just say "yes, let's go". I'm the one asking after all. But I'm uncertain if I should be taking a "back off" stance from the brevity in texting. It seems weird to me that two people could talk so long in person, but seem uninterested by text. I know that I am pretty sensitive to things like this (to my annoyance). Should I respond to them reply and actually ask if they want to go *with me* soon?TLDR - Feel like I am getting mixed signals from someone and not sure if I should continue, or if I am being overly sensitive?