Casual hangout and convo or was she (F22) gauging me for something more?

I (M22) asked my female friend to hangout the day after Christmas for coffee. Some backstory: We've know each other for a year, we're in the same BSN program. We got split up from our classes after I took the summer off, so she's a semester ahead of me. Since then, we haven't really talked much other than small talk when we run into each other at school or her sending me study material for the future courses. I liked this girl but never pursued anything, and my other mutual female friend told me she took a liking to me (which I noticed), but she was in a long distance relationship that she was open about, no boundaries were ever crossed between her and I.

Fast forward to this winter break she starts messaging me out of the blue. She subtly mentions she's been talking to another guy and that they went to this nearby town because she said she was homesick (ok wtf why are you telling me this) because this town is like her hometown. I catch on that she's not in that long distance relationship anymore and I just let her know we should hangout sometime, she agree's with "Yes, i'm so excited". We text a little between each other until the hangout and she constantly asks "what are you doing?" Come the day of, I notice she's all dressed up and looks really nice. This is a type of girl who wears nothing but leggings and basic tops and occasional jeans; simple girl and she's even flat out told me she doesn’t like to be flashy. We're both a bit introverted and would rather stay home inside. Right off, she doesn't get up to hug me; she arrived about 5 mins earlier than me. Ok, weird? We've hugged each other before, that was odd. I grab a coffee and sit down. I ask her how her Christmas was and she says she was basically baby sitting and that she believes the kid got her sick. She did look tired, perhaps that's why she didn't hug me?

Majority of the time she's asking me questions, even about stuff I have already told her before. Either she's disinterested/bored or nervous and doesn't have any idea what to ask me, but I stay quiet about it. Again, to reiterate we're no stranger to one another. She then mentions to me that her boyfriend dumped her, and that she has been speaking to this guy but quickly and explicitly mentions to me that he's gay and that he invited her to that town right after finals ~ 2wks ago, and that they have grown close over the semester. She starts telling me how she was sad when she got dumped but felt like she ought to feel happy about it and see the positives. I let her know that I believe things happen for a reason, to which she agrees. She then starts asking me what I plan to do after graduation (she knows I want to move as does she) and what I plan on doing later in life. I say I'm not too sure, but I'm open to anywhere new and exciting. She tells me her father would like her to move back home (where it snows). She then asks me if I like the snow, and if I would ever move someplace where it snows. I say I wouldn't mind it. Later we start talking about our family and come to realize our mothers are both the same and very crazy and she mentions "I wonder if our moms would get along." At the end our time together she mentions she'll be back in town the week before school starts (she'll be going home for the new year) and that we should get together again, to which I agree.

I purposefully said this was a hangout and treated it as such. Was she gauging to see if there could be something more, or am I overthinking all this.

Submitted December 27, 2019 at 11:53PM

I (M22) asked my female friend to hangout the day after Christmas for coffee. Some backstory: We've know each other for a year, we're in the same BSN program. We got split up from our classes after I took the summer off, so she's a semester ahead of me. Since then, we haven't really talked much other than small talk when we run into each other at school or her sending me study material for the future courses. I liked this girl but never pursued anything, and my other mutual female friend told me she took a liking to me (which I noticed), but she was in a long distance relationship that she was open about, no boundaries were ever crossed between her and I.Fast forward to this winter break she starts messaging me out of the blue. She subtly mentions she's been talking to another guy and that they went to this nearby town because she said she was homesick (ok wtf why are you telling me this) because this town is like her hometown. I catch on that she's not in that long distance relationship anymore and I just let her know we should hangout sometime, she agree's with "Yes, i'm so excited". We text a little between each other until the hangout and she constantly asks "what are you doing?" Come the day of, I notice she's all dressed up and looks really nice. This is a type of girl who wears nothing but leggings and basic tops and occasional jeans; simple girl and she's even flat out told me she doesn’t like to be flashy. We're both a bit introverted and would rather stay home inside. Right off, she doesn't get up to hug me; she arrived about 5 mins earlier than me. Ok, weird? We've hugged each other before, that was odd. I grab a coffee and sit down. I ask her how her Christmas was and she says she was basically baby sitting and that she believes the kid got her sick. She did look tired, perhaps that's why she didn't hug me?Majority of the time she's asking me questions, even about stuff I have already told her before. Either she's disinterested/bored or nervous and doesn't have any idea what to ask me, but I stay quiet about it. Again, to reiterate we're no stranger to one another. She then mentions to me that her boyfriend dumped her, and that she has been speaking to this guy but quickly and explicitly mentions to me that he's gay and that he invited her to that town right after finals ~ 2wks ago, and that they have grown close over the semester. She starts telling me how she was sad when she got dumped but felt like she ought to feel happy about it and see the positives. I let her know that I believe things happen for a reason, to which she agrees. She then starts asking me what I plan to do after graduation (she knows I want to move as does she) and what I plan on doing later in life. I say I'm not too sure, but I'm open to anywhere new and exciting. She tells me her father would like her to move back home (where it snows). She then asks me if I like the snow, and if I would ever move someplace where it snows. I say I wouldn't mind it. Later we start talking about our family and come to realize our mothers are both the same and very crazy and she mentions "I wonder if our moms would get along." At the end our time together she mentions she'll be back in town the week before school starts (she'll be going home for the new year) and that we should get together again, to which I agree.I purposefully said this was a hangout and treated it as such. Was she gauging to see if there could be something more, or am I overthinking all this.