Getting mixed signals. Does he like me or should I call it a day?

So, I'm going to try my best to make a long story short...I've been working with this guy for the past 2 months. We get along. We laugh. Good banter. There is definitely some natural chemistry between us. Everyone in our office has commented on our chemistry as well. However, he has literally made no effort to hangout/talk/anything on the off days when we don't work with each other. After 2 months of wondering if he was interested or not, I decided to shoot my shot. I asked him out to dinner and drinks. He immediately agreed. We went to eat, then proceeded to the bar to grab a couple drinks. I ended up drinking way more than I should've. Things escalated and we hooked up (Which I never intended on happening. Dang you vodka!) The worst part about it is we had to work with each other the entire next day. Which was slightly awkward, especially when you're trying to survive an awful hangover on top of dealing with a guilty conscious. But we still were able to talk and work together w/o any issues. He was still nice and it didn't feel like anything had changed. At the end of the day, we talked about it and he said he had a good time, and would like to hang out again. 3 weeks went by after the incident, and there was literally no interaction between us. No texts, no calls, nothing (Mind you, he was not in the office during these 3 weeks, so we didn't see each other either.) So I chalked it up to he wasn't interested. But then I got a random text from him that asked about my work schedule and if I would be interested in dinner with him. I wrote him back and explained that maybe it would be better if we remained friends, that it didn't really appear that he was interested, and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable at work when we worked together. He replied and said he was definitely interested, he just moves slow, but that if all I wanted was a friendship he was ok with that. Because his reply was so nice, I decided maybe I was being over dramatic/over analyzing the situation, so I decided to go to dinner with him, even if it was a friend date. Dinner was good, no awkwardness. Everything seemed to be going as smooth as possible. We went back to his place and talked for a couple hours, then I went home. There was no insinuation that he was looking for anything sexual, or anything. He walked me to to my car, opened my car door for me and messaged me to make sure I made it home safely. Then asked if he could see me the following day after he got off work. However, the next day his plans of stopping to see me fell through. Since then there has been no communication between us again. It's just such a weird situation. I feel like things are really good when we're together but when were apart he's non existent. It's just such a weird situation to be in. I don't feel like he is 100% interested but I also don't feel like he's 100% uninterested as well. It's just a weird gray area.

Submitted December 09, 2021 at 12:07AM

So, I'm going to try my best to make a long story short...I've been working with this guy for the past 2 months. We get along. We laugh. Good banter. There is definitely some natural chemistry between us. Everyone in our office has commented on our chemistry as well. However, he has literally made no effort to hangout/talk/anything on the off days when we don't work with each other. After 2 months of wondering if he was interested or not, I decided to shoot my shot. I asked him out to dinner and drinks. He immediately agreed. We went to eat, then proceeded to the bar to grab a couple drinks. I ended up drinking way more than I should've. Things escalated and we hooked up (Which I never intended on happening. Dang you vodka!) The worst part about it is we had to work with each other the entire next day. Which was slightly awkward, especially when you're trying to survive an awful hangover on top of dealing with a guilty conscious. But we still were able to talk and work together w/o any issues. He was still nice and it didn't feel like anything had changed. At the end of the day, we talked about it and he said he had a good time, and would like to hang out again. 3 weeks went by after the incident, and there was literally no interaction between us. No texts, no calls, nothing (Mind you, he was not in the office during these 3 weeks, so we didn't see each other either.) So I chalked it up to he wasn't interested. But then I got a random text from him that asked about my work schedule and if I would be interested in dinner with him. I wrote him back and explained that maybe it would be better if we remained friends, that it didn't really appear that he was interested, and I didn't want to make things uncomfortable at work when we worked together. He replied and said he was definitely interested, he just moves slow, but that if all I wanted was a friendship he was ok with that. Because his reply was so nice, I decided maybe I was being over dramatic/over analyzing the situation, so I decided to go to dinner with him, even if it was a friend date. Dinner was good, no awkwardness. Everything seemed to be going as smooth as possible. We went back to his place and talked for a couple hours, then I went home. There was no insinuation that he was looking for anything sexual, or anything. He walked me to to my car, opened my car door for me and messaged me to make sure I made it home safely. Then asked if he could see me the following day after he got off work. However, the next day his plans of stopping to see me fell through. Since then there has been no communication between us again. It's just such a weird situation. I feel like things are really good when we're together but when were apart he's non existent. It's just such a weird situation to be in. I don't feel like he is 100% interested but I also don't feel like he's 100% uninterested as well. It's just a weird gray area.