Started to like someone i’ve rejected in the past. We are both dating other people now

Hey dudes and girls. Really shitty situation here F, 21

So, there is this dude (M, 20) who’s been my friend for more than two years. Year and a half ago, he has confessed his feelings for me, and I rejected him, since I didn’t feel the same and just didn’t want anything of that sort back then. We still remained friends, even though it was really hard for him to get over. A few months after that, I started dating my other friend (M, 21) (who was his close friend as well), and it has been going really well for a year. However, lately, I started feeling really uneasy as I started realizing that I was slowly falling in love with that other dude that I have rejected. I have been trying to suppress this feeling, but recently it has just become impossible.

I cannot keep lying to myself and my current bf anymore. I realize that staying in this relationship is making me feel progressively worse and worse, and that everything about it was a mistake. I really don’t know what to do right now. I feel just like the worst person on planet Earth and it breaks my heart that I can’t change anything about this crappy situation. What makes it even worse is the fact that he is also in a relationship, and he seems to really love this girl. It seems like there really is nothing that I can do

I realize that that there is nothing to recommend in this situation other than to just let it go, but even writing all of these really made me feel at least a little bit better... so yeah



Submitted November 02, 2020 at 09:18PM

Hey dudes and girls. Really shitty situation here F, 21So, there is this dude (M, 20) who’s been my friend for more than two years. Year and a half ago, he has confessed his feelings for me, and I rejected him, since I didn’t feel the same and just didn’t want anything of that sort back then. We still remained friends, even though it was really hard for him to get over. A few months after that, I started dating my other friend (M, 21) (who was his close friend as well), and it has been going really well for a year. However, lately, I started feeling really uneasy as I started realizing that I was slowly falling in love with that other dude that I have rejected. I have been trying to suppress this feeling, but recently it has just become impossible.I cannot keep lying to myself and my current bf anymore. I realize that staying in this relationship is making me feel progressively worse and worse, and that everything about it was a mistake. I really don’t know what to do right now. I feel just like the worst person on planet Earth and it breaks my heart that I can’t change anything about this crappy situation. What makes it even worse is the fact that he is also in a relationship, and he seems to really love this girl. It seems like there really is nothing that I can doI realize that that there is nothing to recommend in this situation other than to just let it go, but even writing all of these really made me feel at least a little bit better... so yeah
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