Being friends with an ex?

TL:DR Ex wants to remains friends but I’m confused on what to do?

So me (24/m) and my gf (26/f) broke up like yesterday and it’s something we were trying to work on and in the end she just didn’t us working out. A couple days ago we talked and she had mentioned us being friends, cause we started out as great friends before anything, and she thought we could go back to being that way. That’s something I’ve never done before normally for me once a relationship ends it ends but this time I feel so lost because I really don’t want to lose her out of my life. At the same time I ask myself, will I ever get over her or be happy this way?” I think what makes me happy about it is the fact that we will still be in each other’s lives but she even made it clear it would be only be a friendship. As much I don’t want to lose her I don’t see myself being a friend to her. I know myself and I’ll never get over her and I’ll always carry that “what if” thought. I’m so confused because how can I just go from seeing this girl as someone I want to be with forever and then next day she’s just a friend. Like i don’t see how it’ll work out but I know deep down inside we both don’t want to lose each other completely. I’m baring the thought of just pushing away my feelings and do my best to be friend so we can still talk and such and my heart carries that little hope that maybe we can have a fresh start and one day get back together. My brain tells me she won’t ever see me as anything but a friend and I just know down the line it just won’t be good for me. What do you guys think? I’m sorry I wasn’t so detailed but I’ll answer any questions and take any advice. I’m just getting weaker and the thought of having her around is making me be okay.. what would anyone here do?



Submitted November 25, 2019 at 12:05AM

TL:DR Ex wants to remains friends but I’m confused on what to do?So me (24/m) and my gf (26/f) broke up like yesterday and it’s something we were trying to work on and in the end she just didn’t us working out. A couple days ago we talked and she had mentioned us being friends, cause we started out as great friends before anything, and she thought we could go back to being that way. That’s something I’ve never done before normally for me once a relationship ends it ends but this time I feel so lost because I really don’t want to lose her out of my life. At the same time I ask myself, will I ever get over her or be happy this way?” I think what makes me happy about it is the fact that we will still be in each other’s lives but she even made it clear it would be only be a friendship. As much I don’t want to lose her I don’t see myself being a friend to her. I know myself and I’ll never get over her and I’ll always carry that “what if” thought. I’m so confused because how can I just go from seeing this girl as someone I want to be with forever and then next day she’s just a friend. Like i don’t see how it’ll work out but I know deep down inside we both don’t want to lose each other completely. I’m baring the thought of just pushing away my feelings and do my best to be friend so we can still talk and such and my heart carries that little hope that maybe we can have a fresh start and one day get back together. My brain tells me she won’t ever see me as anything but a friend and I just know down the line it just won’t be good for me. What do you guys think? I’m sorry I wasn’t so detailed but I’ll answer any questions and take any advice. I’m just getting weaker and the thought of having her around is making me be okay.. what would anyone here do?
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