My [20M] sorta ex [21F] needs money for her brother’s funeral. Is it weird if I donated?

I was dating this girl around this time last year. We both met on Instagram when we had relatively huge followings with both of us having 45K+ followers. We found out we lived in the same city and decided to date after we met in person. For a little while it was great and she really helped me find myself as a person. However we had some incompatibility issues and didn’t handle it like actual adults. To be fair a lot of it was me being a total asshole and partying and taking drugs too much. It resulted in us taking some of the break up drama online and it caused a shit storm with our followers escalating it. That was in December. We haven’t really talked since and we both fell of Instagram for a while.

Today I went back on since I’m doing social media marketing for my buddy’s start up. I decided to reactivate my old account for the hell of it and the first thing on my feed was her mourning her brothers passing. I remember her telling me he had really aggressive neuromuscular dystrophy or some similar disease but seeing the him talked about in the past tense was shocking. She put up a go fund me for his funeral and other legal stuff.

I’ve changed a lot since we last spoke and cleaned up my act. I’m getting some income from my friends start up so the money itself isn’t an issue. I don’t have any interest on rekindling anything even as friends. I just feel bad for her situation and seeing her show up on my timeline made me feel guilty about how I treated her.

Would it be weird to send her my condolences and donate for her brother’s funeral

Tl;dr My ex’s brother recently died. would it be weird if I sent her some money to help cover costs of the funeral and other related matters?



Submitted November 04, 2019 at 11:59PM

I was dating this girl around this time last year. We both met on Instagram when we had relatively huge followings with both of us having 45K+ followers. We found out we lived in the same city and decided to date after we met in person. For a little while it was great and she really helped me find myself as a person. However we had some incompatibility issues and didn’t handle it like actual adults. To be fair a lot of it was me being a total asshole and partying and taking drugs too much. It resulted in us taking some of the break up drama online and it caused a shit storm with our followers escalating it. That was in December. We haven’t really talked since and we both fell of Instagram for a while.Today I went back on since I’m doing social media marketing for my buddy’s start up. I decided to reactivate my old account for the hell of it and the first thing on my feed was her mourning her brothers passing. I remember her telling me he had really aggressive neuromuscular dystrophy or some similar disease but seeing the him talked about in the past tense was shocking. She put up a go fund me for his funeral and other legal stuff.I’ve changed a lot since we last spoke and cleaned up my act. I’m getting some income from my friends start up so the money itself isn’t an issue. I don’t have any interest on rekindling anything even as friends. I just feel bad for her situation and seeing her show up on my timeline made me feel guilty about how I treated her.Would it be weird to send her my condolences and donate for her brother’s funeralTl;dr My ex’s brother recently died. would it be weird if I sent her some money to help cover costs of the funeral and other related matters?
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