Should I just stop trying for my own and others good?

Hi, [22M] here

So yeah, just another guy without any dating experience, nor I have any female friends, which is difficult to be changed (got plenty male ones tho). I'm told I apparently look rather decent, like at least 7/10

I have this rather typical set of hobbies that make you stay at home, you know games, watching shows etc. and I also prefer working out at home.

About four years ago I had this unfortunate encounter, for two months I've been in something you could technically call dating but I'm rather convinced to just not call it that. Basically after two months it turns out that I've been in a relationship with some dude (I am straight) and not a girl, who just decided it'd be fun to catfish me. Well all this sounds like silly stuff, it was all via net naturally so this shit happens. The problem is that until this moment in life I've been easily able to suppress urge to be interested in other gender. But after that it weighed on me sadly enough to incite being actually interested in dating.

Here's the thing: I don't care about for example family saying "what about getting some girlfriend soon" etc. It has no effect on me. It's all just because I want to experience it.

I've tried dating sites, apps, mainly tinder. The huge problem I encounter right now is that for all my life I've lived in a town with only about 20k folk which as you might imagine makes using this app in the long run pointless, closest matches I get now are 60miles/100km away. Now this weighs hugely on me, really. This is one of those cities that has nothing and nobody interesting enough for someone at my age in it. Moving out of it is fairly difficult, money issues.

Now the main reason am asking is because I've been really falling low mentally and I just want it to stop before something in me snaps. No I don't mean drinking, or smoking somethin, I never did any of it, not my kinda life. It's my sexual drive. No I don't go about thinking that yeah women are objects or some shit like that, no. It's just that ugly primal part of me which just wants that physical experience. It starts dominating the better side of me who just wants a normal healthy relationship.

I went to the point where I feel like losing it and just paying some hooker, but out of personal beliefs and pride I'd rather not do that. It's pretty sad if you pay someone for hour of their fake attention being onto you. Friends with benefits options are also out of question as it is again a matter of being in this shithole of a place.

I feel like outa options. Should I just shut down myself mentally in this aspect?

Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:04AM

Hi, [22M] hereSo yeah, just another guy without any dating experience, nor I have any female friends, which is difficult to be changed (got plenty male ones tho). I'm told I apparently look rather decent, like at least 7/10I have this rather typical set of hobbies that make you stay at home, you know games, watching shows etc. and I also prefer working out at home.About four years ago I had this unfortunate encounter, for two months I've been in something you could technically call dating but I'm rather convinced to just not call it that. Basically after two months it turns out that I've been in a relationship with some dude (I am straight) and not a girl, who just decided it'd be fun to catfish me. Well all this sounds like silly stuff, it was all via net naturally so this shit happens. The problem is that until this moment in life I've been easily able to suppress urge to be interested in other gender. But after that it weighed on me sadly enough to incite being actually interested in dating.Here's the thing: I don't care about for example family saying "what about getting some girlfriend soon" etc. It has no effect on me. It's all just because I want to experience it.I've tried dating sites, apps, mainly tinder. The huge problem I encounter right now is that for all my life I've lived in a town with only about 20k folk which as you might imagine makes using this app in the long run pointless, closest matches I get now are 60miles/100km away. Now this weighs hugely on me, really. This is one of those cities that has nothing and nobody interesting enough for someone at my age in it. Moving out of it is fairly difficult, money issues.Now the main reason am asking is because I've been really falling low mentally and I just want it to stop before something in me snaps. No I don't mean drinking, or smoking somethin, I never did any of it, not my kinda life. It's my sexual drive. No I don't go about thinking that yeah women are objects or some shit like that, no. It's just that ugly primal part of me which just wants that physical experience. It starts dominating the better side of me who just wants a normal healthy relationship.I went to the point where I feel like losing it and just paying some hooker, but out of personal beliefs and pride I'd rather not do that. It's pretty sad if you pay someone for hour of their fake attention being onto you. Friends with benefits options are also out of question as it is again a matter of being in this shithole of a place.I feel like outa options. Should I just shut down myself mentally in this aspect?