My (21F) boyfriend (22M) just moved across the country for work

TL;DR: my boyfriend moved across the country for work and I’m having a hard time adjusting to lack of communication and insecurity

My (21F) boyfriend (22M) just graduated and moved across the country for his job. We have been together for 10 months now and it’s been beyond amazing. At school we pretty much spent 24/7 together, him basically living at my apartment near school. We even took a class together. Like any relationship we had our ups and downs, but we both were always there for each other and knew how to talk and work things out.

Now he is gone and is working all the time, and of course everything is different. I am still in school so I am spending the summer w my parents waitressing while studying for the LSATs. I have been lucky enough to be able to spend about a month with him in his new home, and it’s been incredible every time I visited. I love the city he is in, and we just always have a great time when we’re together. But recently, it’s been really hard. I can’t afford to go down there and I’ve been suffering w some health problems so I haven’t really done much. I don’t really have a life in my home town, so I mostly just sit around all day waiting to go to work. This is so unlike me, as I am such an extrovert and love talking and interacting and being with people. I am also getting to know that he is not much of a phone guy, which is something that I never really knew last year because we were together 24/7. I find myself getting very insecure when he takes hours to respond to me me (not when he is at work, that I totally understand) but on weekends and after work, sometimes he just goes AWOL. I am not nervous of him cheating because he would never do anything like that, he is the most honest mature straightforward guy I know, I just get really insecure that he doesn’t care about me like he used to, cause here I am waiting for him to get off work excited to talk about his day, and he just doesn’t respond. I don’t know if this is something I should be worried about or how to handle this insecurity really.

I know this might not much sense or seem like a big deal, but it’s been really hard for me and I am trying to be understanding of his new life, while trying to balance what I need from him. He means the absolute world to me and I am willing to do anything to make this work. Anything will help.

Also, he might see this and know immediately it is about him. If so, hi.

Submitted July 27, 2019 at 11:50PM

TL;DR: my boyfriend moved across the country for work and I’m having a hard time adjusting to lack of communication and insecurityMy (21F) boyfriend (22M) just graduated and moved across the country for his job. We have been together for 10 months now and it’s been beyond amazing. At school we pretty much spent 24/7 together, him basically living at my apartment near school. We even took a class together. Like any relationship we had our ups and downs, but we both were always there for each other and knew how to talk and work things out.Now he is gone and is working all the time, and of course everything is different. I am still in school so I am spending the summer w my parents waitressing while studying for the LSATs. I have been lucky enough to be able to spend about a month with him in his new home, and it’s been incredible every time I visited. I love the city he is in, and we just always have a great time when we’re together. But recently, it’s been really hard. I can’t afford to go down there and I’ve been suffering w some health problems so I haven’t really done much. I don’t really have a life in my home town, so I mostly just sit around all day waiting to go to work. This is so unlike me, as I am such an extrovert and love talking and interacting and being with people. I am also getting to know that he is not much of a phone guy, which is something that I never really knew last year because we were together 24/7. I find myself getting very insecure when he takes hours to respond to me me (not when he is at work, that I totally understand) but on weekends and after work, sometimes he just goes AWOL. I am not nervous of him cheating because he would never do anything like that, he is the most honest mature straightforward guy I know, I just get really insecure that he doesn’t care about me like he used to, cause here I am waiting for him to get off work excited to talk about his day, and he just doesn’t respond. I don’t know if this is something I should be worried about or how to handle this insecurity really.I know this might not much sense or seem like a big deal, but it’s been really hard for me and I am trying to be understanding of his new life, while trying to balance what I need from him. He means the absolute world to me and I am willing to do anything to make this work. Anything will help.Also, he might see this and know immediately it is about him. If so, hi.