My [22M] wife’s [45F] daughter [24F] started hitting on me and tried to come onto while drunk, how am I supposed to go about this?

I’ve been dating my wife for 4 years now (I’m 22, she’s 45, and her daughter is 24). It took a lot of work to get my family to be accepting of my relationship, but we made it work and we now have a beautiful 2 year old daughter together. I love her so much and we are so close. Her daughter was freaked out at my wife when we first started dating since I was so much younger, but she came around and accepted me.

Now I have a problem with her. She started to flirt with me a lot and she told me that she has had a crush on me ever since I got together with her mom. She’s been telling me this for a few months now, but it’s gotten worse since she has tried to get physical with me. Then, a few days ago we celebrated her 24th birthday at our place. She drank a lot and when everybody was asleep she came to talk with me.

She was so drunk and she was crying a lot. She told me that she was hurt about my relationship with my wife, and she told me that she had really strong feelings for me. She begged me to give her a chance and then she tried to get real physical but I just gave her a blanket and a pillow so she could sleep and I went up to bed. Then next day she acted sad around me but didn’t say anything.

I have not brought this issue up to my wife and I feel guilty. I didn’t cheat on her or anything but I am not sure if it’s the best thing to tell her or keep it to myself. So how am I supposed to go about this whole mess?

TL;DR- my wife’s oldest daughter is hitting on me and she says she has feelings for me, what am I supposed to do?



Submitted July 28, 2019 at 12:06AM

I’ve been dating my wife for 4 years now (I’m 22, she’s 45, and her daughter is 24). It took a lot of work to get my family to be accepting of my relationship, but we made it work and we now have a beautiful 2 year old daughter together. I love her so much and we are so close. Her daughter was freaked out at my wife when we first started dating since I was so much younger, but she came around and accepted me.Now I have a problem with her. She started to flirt with me a lot and she told me that she has had a crush on me ever since I got together with her mom. She’s been telling me this for a few months now, but it’s gotten worse since she has tried to get physical with me. Then, a few days ago we celebrated her 24th birthday at our place. She drank a lot and when everybody was asleep she came to talk with me.She was so drunk and she was crying a lot. She told me that she was hurt about my relationship with my wife, and she told me that she had really strong feelings for me. She begged me to give her a chance and then she tried to get real physical but I just gave her a blanket and a pillow so she could sleep and I went up to bed. Then next day she acted sad around me but didn’t say anything.I have not brought this issue up to my wife and I feel guilty. I didn’t cheat on her or anything but I am not sure if it’s the best thing to tell her or keep it to myself. So how am I supposed to go about this whole mess?TL;DR- my wife’s oldest daughter is hitting on me and she says she has feelings for me, what am I supposed to do?
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