i (18F) don’t know how to deal with flirty coworker (19?M)

i’m a hostess at a restaurant & have been working there for a few months now. it’s a really great job for me, i work with mostly people my age & a lot of us have become close friends. however, there’s this one guy that i work with that makes me really uncomfortable at times. he’s a cook, & i’m a hostess who works in the front, so we don’t interact that often. however, our a break table/area is the back of the restaurant close to where the kitchen is. every time that i take my break, he always seems to mosey his way back into that area wanting to talk to me (mind you he is not on break when he does this). this has been consistent since when i very first started working there. at first it was friendly conversation, which i don’t mind, i wanted to get to know everyone. as time went on the conversations started to become more flirty & almost invasive on his end & that’s something i am not comfortable with. i was really trying to ignore it but last week he was asking me what i was doing over the holidays. i said i probably wasn’t going to do much. then he said “well maybe you & me should hang out.” i kind of froze in the moment so i just smiled & said “yea, maybe” to which he said “i’ll text you later” (he doesn’t have my number so that was confusing) & that was the end of the conversation. now i’ve been really trying to avoid him because i have a lot of anxiety over responding to unwanted attention from men. i think he’s noticed i’m trying to avoid him a bit. for example, a few days after that last incident we ended up clocking out at the same time & i felt the need to rush out of the restaurant so he wouldn’t try to walk out with me/walk me to my car. basically i’m anxious about if he were to ask me out, i wouldn’t know what to say. i’m a pretty soft spoken person so me talking to him first about it seems unlikely. any help is appreciated!! thank you for taking the time to read.

TL:DR! coworker has become increasingly flirty but i am not interested in him. i have a lot of anxiety over this. if he were to ask me out, or ask when im free, basically anything alluding to wanting to hang out with me outside of work, how should i respond?

Submitted December 26, 2019 at 12:22AM

i’m a hostess at a restaurant & have been working there for a few months now. it’s a really great job for me, i work with mostly people my age & a lot of us have become close friends. however, there’s this one guy that i work with that makes me really uncomfortable at times. he’s a cook, & i’m a hostess who works in the front, so we don’t interact that often. however, our a break table/area is the back of the restaurant close to where the kitchen is. every time that i take my break, he always seems to mosey his way back into that area wanting to talk to me (mind you he is not on break when he does this). this has been consistent since when i very first started working there. at first it was friendly conversation, which i don’t mind, i wanted to get to know everyone. as time went on the conversations started to become more flirty & almost invasive on his end & that’s something i am not comfortable with. i was really trying to ignore it but last week he was asking me what i was doing over the holidays. i said i probably wasn’t going to do much. then he said “well maybe you & me should hang out.” i kind of froze in the moment so i just smiled & said “yea, maybe” to which he said “i’ll text you later” (he doesn’t have my number so that was confusing) & that was the end of the conversation. now i’ve been really trying to avoid him because i have a lot of anxiety over responding to unwanted attention from men. i think he’s noticed i’m trying to avoid him a bit. for example, a few days after that last incident we ended up clocking out at the same time & i felt the need to rush out of the restaurant so he wouldn’t try to walk out with me/walk me to my car. basically i’m anxious about if he were to ask me out, i wouldn’t know what to say. i’m a pretty soft spoken person so me talking to him first about it seems unlikely. any help is appreciated!! thank you for taking the time to read.TL:DR! coworker has become increasingly flirty but i am not interested in him. i have a lot of anxiety over this. if he were to ask me out, or ask when im free, basically anything alluding to wanting to hang out with me outside of work, how should i respond?